Why Successful Women Struggle in Dating + Relationships
Cara Says It All
Cara Alwill
4.8 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 15 October 2022
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
No matter how much men say they want an equal partner, a woman who's smart, successful, and fiercely independent, studies find that those women often make men feel emasculated or inferior (so no, its not in your head, boo!)
There is research by Lora Park, associate professor in the University at Buffalo psychology department, that shows when asked what they wanted in a woman, men wanted "the whole package" – specifically women who were smart and successful. But when given the opportunity to close the distance, and actually meet and/or date these women, the men started to lose interest.
So the good news is, in most cases, it's not you, it's definitely him. But what can we do about it? Today's episode will teach you how to navigate the modern dating landscape, stop blaming yourself for failed relationships, and approach dating in a new and empowered way.
Transcript
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| 0:00.7 | Hi guys, welcome back to the show. |
| 0:02.5 | You are listening to style your minds. |
| 0:04.6 | I am your host, Cara Allwell. |
| 0:07.3 | Today we're gonna talk about why so many successful women |
| 0:10.1 | seem to struggle when it comes to dating and relationships. |
| 0:13.8 | I'm sure you've either seen it through your friends |
| 0:16.2 | or experienced it firsthand. |
| 0:17.9 | I know that I have. |
| 0:19.4 | You meet someone, you have this great date, |
| 0:21.4 | and then they disappear. |
| 0:23.3 | They ghost you. |
| 0:25.0 | Or you're on a date, |
| 0:26.4 | and when the conversation around career comes up |
| 0:28.6 | and you start to share your success and your accomplishments, |
| 0:31.7 | you immediately feel this guy's energy shift. |
| 0:35.3 | I know this has happened to me on first dates. |
| 0:37.9 | We start chatting and then the guy asks what I do |
| 0:40.6 | and I share that I've got some books |
| 0:42.6 | and I've got a podcast. |
| 0:44.4 | And I've never had a situation where a guy like flat out |
| 0:47.4 | was rude about it, but I can just feel, you know, |
| 0:50.3 | him say, oh wow, that's really cool. |
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