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If you grow up in a very loving home where you were well protected, you had a lot of kindness.

Everyone helped each other. There were only good words. People really thought good of each other.

There were so many sweet words that were said every day. People understood each other.

They sacrificed for each other and you get married to a guy who's brilliant. But his family,

whom you might be living with, are people who doubt everyone they swear and scream,

they yell and they beat each other up. For example, or they are abusive. They have issues. They

really don't get on with each other. They wouldn't sacrifice for each other. If you are going to be

living among them, then most likely you're going to struggle in that home a lot. May Allah protect

us. This is why, Islamically, you are entitled to your separate quarters when you're married.

But not everyone can afford that. It's very worthwhile to look at whether you're going to be

living with your in-laws or not number one. If you are, are they people who are going to respect

you and honor you? Are they people who are going to help with things that you have to do?

Or are they people who are just going to look at you as a slave, all the work out to you?

Make sure that you're working late at night while they're sleeping, you're busy preparing the

meals. That also, sometimes for some, might not be such a big problem. But would they be

vulgar and abusive, mistrust and creating issues and problems? The hearts may not be clean.

Something you were never accustomed to. That is something many people fail to look into. And

this is why arranged introductions have their pros and cons. And those where we have come up with

the idea or the suggestion also has pros and cons. And this is why my brothers and sisters,

it's important before you allow yourself to consider someone as a potential spouse,

have a look at the way they were brought up, have a look at their siblings and their family members,

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