A podcast listener right to ask this, Pastor John, my girlfriend who is no longer a virgin

continues to desire sex and thinks it is natural despite the fact that it's premarital.

She wants me to have sex with her.

However, I'm a virgin who wants to remain pure until marriage, my question is, if sex

is so natural and normal, then why do we resist our humanity and restrain sex until marriage?

What would you say to this podcast listener, Pastor John?

If she does not think it is a sin to have sex outside marriage, then you have a very ignorant

and very foolish girl on your hands.

This is really basic to Christianity and if she thinks sex outside marriage is holy, then

she's not a worthy candidate for marriage.

The relationship you are in, it seems, is certainly more than casual if she's wanting sex,

so my counsel is move out of this relationship quickly.

Point her to the Bible, suggest that she study it and be in a good mentoring relationship

with a godly woman and see if she matures in the truth.

If she does think that it is sin, then you have a very selfish and even cruel girl on

your hands because she not only is willing to sin herself and put her own soul at risk,

that is trying to get you not only into bed but into hell with her and so put your soul

at risk.

And in either of these two cases, whether she's foolish and ignorant on the one hand or selfish

and cruel, on the other hand, she may well be motivated by the thought that getting you

to have sex with her may be her way of holding on to you since from her perspective, as long

as you have not had sex, you're not bound to her.

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