Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chattwick and today we are going to be

discussing why red flags aren't red flags until they become patterns and the psychology of the

normalization of red flags, it being a specific process that occurs inside the victim,

brain bias, attachment, and also on the abusers end to help create that bias attachment,

you know, intermittent reinforcement is occurring. And this can make red flags just not harder to

see as they just gradually become these everyday things,

but also you can actually sometimes see these patterns and know what could be a pattern,

and you do see a pattern, but the psychology may not make these things as big as a deal anymore.

And there are other things that could be attaching you to this relationship as well by this point.

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there. So today we are going to be discussing, as I say a lot on the show,

red flags are not red flags until they become a pattern.

And something that I always say on the show is sometimes you get those people that say,

why didn't you see the red flags sooner? And there's a real big false assumption

here that red flags present themselves as red flags. And we recently did an episode about those

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