Why Neurodivergent Kids Get Labeled "Bossy"— & the 4-Steps That Change Everything
THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST
Holly Blanc Moses
4.9 • 686 Ratings
🗓️ 14 January 2026
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
"Bossy." "Rude." "Demanding." "Has an attitude."
If your autistic or ADHD child keeps getting these labels from teachers, family members, other parents or even yourself - this episode is for you.
As an AuDHD psychologist, I see this pattern and how it silences the voices of neurodivergent children. destroying children's voices every single day.
In this episode, I'll show you:
- What's REALLY happening when your neurodivergent child speaks directly
- Why YOUR nervous system reacts so strongly to their tone (and why that matters)
- The devastating long-term impact of constantly correcting tone
- The 4-Step approach that changes everything (with real examples you can use TODAY)
- How to repair when you get it wrong
This isn't about letting kids "be rude." It's about understanding the difference between directness and disrespect - and protecting your child's ability to advocate for themselves.
I'm excited to share this episode with you and share about an incredible workshop - "A Better 2026: A Gentle Reset for Overwhelmed Parents of Neurodivergent Children."
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About Holly Blanc Moses
Holly Blanc Moses is a neurodivergent psychologist, speaker, consultant, continuing education provider, and host of The Autism ADHD Podcast, Autism ADHD TV, and parent masterclasses.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Autism-AdHD podcast. |
| 0:06.7 | It's the place to be for nerdiversity affirming parents and professionals. |
| 0:11.9 | I'm your host, Holly Blanc Moses, the mom nerd aversion therapist. |
| 0:16.4 | Here we chat about emotional regulation, mental health, social support, executive functioning, |
| 0:23.5 | learning, and more, all aimed at empowering us to support kids and teens with compassion |
| 0:29.8 | and understanding. |
| 0:31.7 | I'm thrilled that you join me today and I've got some pretty exciting news to share with you. |
| 0:37.6 | For those rock star therapists listening right now, |
| 0:41.6 | I've created continuing education training that is tailor-made for you. |
| 0:47.7 | Take a deep dive into cutting-edge strategies that you can start using today. |
| 0:54.4 | The CEs you've wanted for so long are finally here. |
| 0:59.6 | Go to hollyblankmosis.com forward slash C.E. Training and sign up. |
| 1:07.0 | You are going to love it. |
| 1:09.5 | The link is also available in the show notes. |
| 1:12.8 | Now, if you are a parent or educator listening |
| 1:15.9 | and you know a therapist or a psychologist |
| 1:19.1 | that is passionate about supporting kids and teens, |
| 1:22.7 | I greatly appreciate it if you could pass on this great news. |
| 1:27.2 | Thanks so much again for your support. |
| 1:29.6 | And let's get started. |
| 1:45.4 | It's mid-January, 2026. |
| 1:52.0 | If you're already feeling tired, I want you to know that you are not alone. |
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