Why Narcissists Don't Miss You (They Miss Control)
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Lisa A. Romano
4.8 • 805 Ratings
🗓️ 1 June 2026
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
Why Narcissists Don't Miss You (They Miss Control)
A Live Workshop Episode with Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach
Have you ever walked away from a toxic relationship and wondered if they miss you?
Do you find yourself holding onto memories, questioning your worth, or hoping they will realize what they lost?
If so, you are not alone. And you are not broken.
In this powerful live workshop episode, Lisa A. Romano explains the truth behind one of the most painful questions people ask after leaving a narcissistic relationship. With deep psychological insight and compassionate clarity, Lisa reveals why narcissists do not miss you in a healthy, emotional way, and what they are actually attached to instead.
This is not about rejection. It is about understanding the dynamic.
In This Episode You'll Discover:
🔹 Why narcissists are not capable of missing you in an emotionally healthy way
🔹 The difference between love and control in narcissistic relationships
🔹 What narcissists actually miss after you leave the relationship
🔹 Why empathy and emotional connection are often absent
🔹 The role of codependency in staying attached to toxic partners
🔹 Why you may miss the fantasy, not the reality of the relationship
🔹 How narcissists seek new "supply" to avoid self-reflection
🔹 The patterns of manipulation, including gaslighting and stonewalling
🔹 Why healing requires radical honesty about the relationship
🔹 How awareness helps you break free and reclaim your sense of self
A Truth That Changes Everything:
Narcissists do not miss you.
They miss the control, the attention, and the emotional access they had to you.
They miss the role you played in their life, not the person you truly are.
This is not a personal failure. This is a pattern rooted in trauma, conditioning, and unconscious behavior.
✨ You were not hard to love.
✨ You were taught to tolerate what was not love.
✨ And you can learn to choose yourself.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Breakdown to Breakthrough, the podcast that empowers you to transform your life |
| 0:04.8 | by awakening to your true authentic self. I'm Lisa A. Romano, your host, as an award-winning author |
| 0:10.6 | and certified life coach, I've dedicated my life to helping others understand the incredible |
| 0:16.0 | power of an organized mind. I believe that true empowerment begins with awakening to our false self. |
| 0:23.2 | I created the Conscious Healing Academy, a three-part coaching and brain retraining program designed |
| 0:28.6 | to help individuals triumph over trauma and turn the breakdowns into powerful breakthroughs. |
| 0:34.5 | My mission is to support you on your journey toward mental and emotional |
| 0:38.6 | regeneration through conscious and deliberate awakening. In this podcast, I'll share insights, |
| 0:44.5 | tools, and transformative stories that will illuminate the path to healing and self-discovery. |
| 0:50.4 | Misty, dear one, so today we're going to be discussing why narcissists can't miss you. They don't miss you. |
| 0:57.7 | And I can tell you that if you've been in a narcissistic relationship, if you have escaped a narcissistic marriage, you may have wondered, do they miss me? |
| 1:08.9 | And the answer is no. They don't miss you. What they miss is losing control over you. |
| 1:16.5 | Narcissists miss having power over you. Narcissists miss this idea that no matter what they say, |
| 1:24.6 | no matter what they do, they will be able to emotionally scramble your brain, |
| 1:29.5 | and you will put up with it. And narcissists are interesting creatures, and it's, to me, |
| 1:37.4 | it's very sad. This idea that they are so stuck below the veil of consciousness, if you were to imagine consciousness like |
| 1:46.4 | a skyscraper, and there are 10 floors down and then, I don't know, 100 floors up, a narcissist |
| 1:55.2 | is pretty far down in the basement, in the belly of that skyscraper and has no clue that they |
| 2:03.9 | aren't even at the ground level. They lack that much self-awareness. There is no real introspection. |
| 2:12.0 | In order to miss someone, you have to have valued that person as a person, as a sovereign being, as an autonomous human |
| 2:21.9 | being. In order to miss someone, you would have to have had empathy for that person. |
| 2:29.3 | That person would have to have been a live, 3D, autonomous human being. Narcissists aren't in it for the relationship. |
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