All right, Jasmine, you are a force of nature, and I say that in a very positive way.

You talk a lot about excuses, and I'm putting myself square in the middle of this deal, right?

Success is usually on the other side of the excuses we make. So I want your opinion.

Why do you think we humans so easily come up with excuses? What's happening? Oh, we have to be

kind to ourselves. We're afraid. We make excuses out of fear. And it's not fear of not wanting to do

something. It is fear of being seen. It is fear of fear. And it's not fear of not wanting to do something. It is fear of being seen.

It is fear of not accomplishing what we say we're going to do and fear of losing what we have.

Even if we don't feel like what we have is enough, we are more driven by pain than achievement

or pain versus success. So we will stay in pain longer with what is safe

than being uncomfortable. So the excuses that we use are a safety mechanism. Now, if you decide to

choose courage over safety, then we can have a conversation. Before we get back to the conversation,

our guest today is Jasmine Starr, an entrepreneur, branding expert, and business strateg strategist who has built a multi-million dollar brand that helps entrepreneurs grow through marketing and social media. Let's get back to our conversation.

You know, having coached so many people, I've said many times that we'd rather be miserable than uncomfortable.

Amen.

And I think that's what you just said. And there's something there. So take us, was there a time in your life where you were in that boat and then take us there? And then what did you do to get on the other side of that? Well, I'll start off with the pattern that I've seen in my life. I've been able to pivot my life and career about six or seven times. I know. And you'd be shocked because I'm really, I mean, it's crazy you can pivot so many times

and just be 29 years old. But what we do is I've noticed, and that was a joke, nobody's sitting

here looking at thinking about right, right. What happens is we feel the pressure of staying the same

before we actually have a decision about it.

And so for me, I've started getting hints of being too small, like in a jacket that's too

small or in shoes that were too old with laces that were too tight, but it requires a certain

amount of courage to actually change the trajectory.

And so for me, the pattern has been two years of a gestation period where I know this is not where I'm supposed to be. But I don't know how. I don't know what's next. I don't know if I have the money, the time, the resources, education, and it's always the same pattern. And so now that I've developed into womanhood, I can say, oh, no, we're here again. And every time the pivot occurs, it is for the next version. It is for the elevation. So when I look back, it's like I can distinctly talk about seven times where I was forced to make a decision. Because I believe that sometimes God will knock and do we pay attention. And then there's a nudge. And then sometimes a rhinoceros comes. Because we've all been here to do something big and to do something different. But the more we ignore, the more force it's going to be required. We're going to get to where we're supposed to go. But when do we begin to do that? So every time I've gotten a little knock or a nudge, I now start paying attention. But I dropped out of law school to become a photographer when I didn't own a

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