Why more people are cutting ties with family
Apple News In Conversation
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🗓️ 21 November 2024
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
Even before the divisive presidential election, family estrangement was on the rise. Now, as holiday gatherings approach, many people are grappling with difficult family dynamics. Psychologist Joshua Coleman, the author of Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties & How to Heal the Conflict, talks to Apple News In Conversation host Shumita Basu about how to navigate strained relationships and what steps you can take to bridge divides.
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| 0:20.3 | This is In Conversation from Apple News. I'm Shemitha Basu. Today, strained, sometimes estranged relationships we have with our family. |
| 0:48.4 | A 2022 survey from UGov showed that over one quarter of Americans said they're estranged from at least one family |
| 0:55.1 | member, including parents, children, siblings, and grandparents. |
| 0:59.7 | It happens for all sorts of reasons, although this year, after a particularly divisive |
| 1:04.3 | election season, some of those tensions are ratcheted up even higher. |
| 1:08.7 | We asked listeners to tell us your stories about estrangement in your |
| 1:12.1 | families, and we were overwhelmed with calls. Hi, my name is Stephanie. My name is Eddie Gonzalez. |
| 1:18.9 | My name's Brea Paley from Queens, New York City. Winston-Salem, North Carolina. Orange County, |
| 1:24.0 | California, PA. And I'm estranged from my mother, my sister, and my brother. |
| 1:29.0 | I haven't spoken to my stepfather in almost 10 years. I've had to go non-contact with my mother. |
| 1:35.0 | Lots of things that attributed to me cutting him out of my life. Intergenerational trauma. A narcissist. |
| 1:41.0 | There was alcohol involved. Politics or climate change. |
| 1:44.4 | Verbal abuse, some physical abuse. |
| 1:46.6 | It has created fissures in my family that are beyond repair. |
| 1:50.6 | I live less than a mile away from her and don't know the children. |
| 1:56.3 | They try to reach out to me, but I am much happier without talking to them. I feel a lot of longing for a |
| 2:02.9 | family that really accepts and understands me, and I really wish that something would shift. |
| 2:08.9 | As you can hear, some of you said estrangement is working for you, that you feel better going no |
| 2:13.6 | contact. But so many said some version of, I'm sad that things are this way, and I wish they |
| 2:19.8 | were better. So I wanted to talk to an expert who could offer some advice on how to heal |
| 2:24.7 | difficult family relationships. Josh Coleman is a therapist and a researcher who specializes |
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