Behind every dismissive avoidant man, there is a specific mother wound.

There's a specific type of mother that created this attachment style.

And so today I'm going to be talking about the creation of the dismissive avoidant man

and the mother archetype, the mother wound that has gone into creating this man.

And what you specifically need to know about it, whether you are that man or you're with that man,

and how you can begin to address

this cycle, this protection mechanism that has shown up. So let's talk about the dismissive man,

the dismissive avoidant man. He's usually the guy from what I've seen in working with so many

dudes that has a, usually he's got a lot going on for him. He's got drive. He's got determination.

He's got direction. He's able to build and create quite often. He's like magnetic. He seems

to be able to draw women in relationships into him. And as you do that, as you draw women in,

you find that maybe you don't have so much of a problem

attracting women, but you have a challenge having it go the distance.

And so the moment that she really shows up, that there's emotional availability, that she's

consistent, that she's genuinely loving and nurturing and

compassionate, you start to Homer Simpson into the bushes, right? You just start to fade away.

You pull back, you find yourself getting a little bit more cold, you find this hypervigilance

showing up of like critiquing these really small and seemingly innocuous and insignificant things that you start to fixate on

and you start to pull away. Maybe you might find yourself saying she's too needy or, you know,

her love is just too intense or it feels like she needs too much for me or it's like this is too

much too soon. And what's actually happening inside of you, inside of the dismissive avoidant man,

is that your nervous system is responding to what it perceives to be a threat.

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