Did somebody say White Elephant? Jordana and Dr. Naomi are back from the holidays and swap stories about the highlights of their own gift swaps. Speaking of lavish gifts, our first email of the day comes from a listener whose sister-in-law lives a lavish lifestyle funded by her wealthy parents, leading to feelings of resentment. Why do we feel the need to compare ourselves to others? And is our pursuit of “fairness” just keeping us focused on what we don’t have? Then another listener emails in with a Betchicist question about whether or not it’s worth holding her wedding at a family home even if it will inevitably lead to some serious drama. Should you consider choosing the perfect venue, even if it means that some people won’t be willing to attend? They dive into some intentions-setting for a new mother that’s about to return from maternity leave and struggling with the transition. How should you set intentions for creating a healthy work-family balance without feeling guilty? Finally, the triggered submissions come from a listener who found a list of her negative traits on her boyfriend’s phone, and another from a caller whose friend ripped off her wedding ring design. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices