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Fierce Marriage

Why "I love you but I'm not IN love with you" is a lie...

Fierce Marriage

Ryan and Selena Frederick

Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.94.3K Ratings

🗓️ 20 March 2018

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

One of the truest markers of genuine love is its staying power—its longevity, its ability to persevere, and its ability to withstand. This is the type of love Christ shows us, and its the type of love we're called to express in marriage.However, our culture and our humanity would have us believe something else. Without a biblical understanding of love, we're prone to follow the whims of emotion and experience. We risk confusing infatuation for love. We believe the lie that love can only be found or stumbled upon rather than built, nurtured, and acted out. We risk believing that love is fickle and fragile—that it's something that can break or fade over time. That couldn't be further from the truth. Love is strong, not weak. It's decisive, not elusive. And love is BIG... so much bigger than our emotions can express or our moods can decide. How is love so big and so strong? In short, love is not a human idea. Love is God's idea, created by his design, and sustained by his strength.And there is no greater display of love than Christ on the cross. John 15:13 says this, "Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends." No love is stronger than God's love in Christ, which is why we're called to love as Christ loves—fiercely, unconditionally, perfectly.The catch is this: we can't love without God's help. We need to experience his love in Christ and be fueled by the transformation it brings. In today's episode, we'll discuss the above and more! Couple's Challenge Read through 1 Corinthians 13 and do two things: * Write down how Jesus shows you each characteristic of love. * Write down how you can show each characteristic to each other. Once you've done that, discuss! Spread the Love If we've earned it we'd be honored to have your subscription. In short, SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you! Do you have a question? If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes. Just visit https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast (https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast) or https://fiercemarriage.com/ask (https://fiercemarriage.com/ask) to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Fierce Marriage Podcast where we believe that marriage takes a fierce

0:10.7

tenacity that never gives up and refuses to give in.

0:13.7

Here we'll share openly and honestly about all things marriage, sex, communication,

0:18.0

finances, priorities, purpose, and everything in between.

0:21.6

Staff, Ponder, and joining on Candid Gospel-centered conversations.

0:28.6

This is Fierce Marriage.

0:35.6

Alright, everybody, we're here and we are excited.

0:39.6

We are excited. I thought I was going to sneeze right now.

0:42.6

That was like, are you good? Are you just done?

0:45.6

I felt sneeze coming in. I didn't want to.

0:47.6

She were like, back to away from the munger. I was like, okay, I guess we're done.

0:50.6

We're talking about this idea that this idea that you hear a lot of when people say,

0:55.6

hey, I love you, but I'm not in love with you.

0:57.6

Oh, it's absolutely fine.

0:58.6

How in the context of marriage, in life in general, that is a lie.

1:02.6

Yeah.

1:03.6

I don't think there's any truth in that. I think it's an excuse.

1:07.6

What did we have an Instagram image? If you're not following us on Instagram, check that out.

1:11.6

At Fierce Marriage. But one of the things we said on there was it's selfishness with a mask on.

1:18.6

And that's absolutely true. So yeah, we're going to get into that.

1:21.6

But before we do that, as we like to do, we like to check up and just kind of share a little bit

1:27.6

what's going on in our hearts and our minds, at least on our heart check.

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