Why I Don’t Force Clean Plates or Fake Apologies | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 33
After Hours With Amanda
After Hours With Amanda
5.0 • 697 Ratings
🗓️ 14 July 2022
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
In this episode of After Hours With Amanda, I’m talking about clean plates, forced apologies, food, body cues, empathy, and the tiny ways we teach kids to trust or ignore themselves. This is not me telling anyone how to parent. It is me thinking out loud about what happens when we focus more on the performance of gratitude, manners, or obedience than the internal tools our kids are building. From dinner tables to apologies to gift reactions, I’m asking what it looks like to raise tiny humans who can listen to their bodies, say no politely, repair with empathy, and trust themselves as they grow.
00:00 Sleepytime Tea and a Late Night Hello
02:15 Forts, Toy Story, and Tiny Humans
04:26 The Almost New York Trip
07:03 Phantom, Les Mis, and Big Questions
10:39 What This Podcast Really Is
12:24 The Clean Plate Problem
16:16 Forced Apologies and Real Empathy
18:42 Walking Kids Through Repair
20:38 Teaching Kids to Listen to Their Bodies
23:33 Food Rules, Dessert, and Boundaries
26:34 Trusting Intuition Beyond the Dinner Table
29:19 Teaching Kids to Say No Politely
31:17 When Kids Learn to Perform
33:10 Cruise Control Parenting
37:09 Gift Reactions and Gratitude
40:35 Food for Thought and Final Encouragement
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | um well hello |
| 0:03.2 | i don't know why i said it like that i gotta be honest with you i think in my head i was |
| 0:09.3 | legitimately like hey girlfriend and then i was like oh don't say that and then i was like hey babe |
| 0:14.4 | and then like no don't say that and so i just said hello like i'm literally mr bean like |
| 0:20.0 | what is what's happening? |
| 0:22.7 | I took off my Apple Watch, so I have to look at my cell phone. |
| 0:25.6 | It's 9.47 p.m. Wednesday night, Pacific Standard Time. |
| 0:32.0 | What are we doing? |
| 0:33.6 | We're recording an episode of the podcast, obviously. |
| 0:36.1 | Okay. |
| 0:56.1 | I have been listening to a ton of morbid lately, which is like one of my favorite true crime podcasts. And they have an intro that they play every time. And I don't know why, but just hearing it, you like know what it means. Oh, okay, I'm listening to this podcast. It's kind of made me want to do something. So who knows, |
| 1:01.9 | I might get creative. I might try and do an intro of sorts. But do you know the problem? |
| 1:06.4 | And if you've been listening long enough or you've watched my content for any period of time, you're going to know what I mean by this. I have a hard time committing to a sound to define the podcast. |
| 1:13.8 | Like, I can barely stick to a topic while sharing the podcast. And, like, sharing on the podcast |
| 1:22.2 | is what I mean. And I have sleepy time tea in my Mr. Rogers mug right now. If we were sitting in the closet together, |
| 1:30.8 | you'd see this really fabulous mug that I bought from Still City, which they're on Instagram. |
| 1:36.6 | It's this brand out of Pittsburgh that when I did a collab with Daniel Tiger, I got sent merch from |
| 1:41.2 | them, which was literally life-giving. It's where I got my Daniel Tiger hoodie from. |
| 1:45.3 | And I love this mug with everything in my being. |
| 1:48.6 | If it ever breaks, I will be super gluing it together. |
| 1:53.1 | Knock on wood. |
| 1:54.3 | I don't have any wood. |
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