Years ago, I broke up with a good person.

And the reason why I broke up with him is because it was not the right match and I was profoundly settling by staying with him.

Breaking up is really hard and it is particularly hard when you can't really say that this

person betrayed you or, you know, they're mean to you or there's mistreatment.

One of the most profound lessons that I have learned over the last decade of my life is who we

choose to partner with is an incredibly important decision when your intention is to build a life with someone

and to build a great life with someone.

And when I was with this person, there were things that we were actually compatible in a few ways.

We had some similar values.

We had some similarities in terms of how we viewed the world.

He was good looking. He was incredibly intelligent.

And so when you think about this, someone's good looking. They're intelligent. You share some

of the same values. You have some compatibilities. Why would you end a relationship with that person?

Because it takes more than just that. You actually have to agree on what a life well lived is.

And you also have to have certain things that are in alignment that go beyond preferences and even go beyond surface level values and cut right to the heart of what's really important.

You also have to know what of what's really important.

You also have to know what your deal breakers are and be really clear about that.

And sometimes you don't know what your deal breakers are until you are in a situation where something happens and you have this reckoning with yourself and you're like, this is something that feels terribly wrong.

So like I said, years ago, I was in a relationship with someone.

It lasted about seven months.

And it lasted about seven months and it was about three months longer than it should

have been. I knew about four months in that this was not right. And here were the main

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