Why High-Value People Don’t Avoid Conflict | Social Intel Brief

The Art of Charm

http://www.TheArtOfCharm.com

Business, Health & Fitness, Education

4.7 • 11K Ratings

🗓️ 25 September 2025

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Why do some people command instant respect without saying a word? In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal the four high value signals that separate quiet authority from desperate posturing. Respect isn’t about aggression, volume, or proving you belong—it’s about presence. With research from Harvard and Frame Strength studies, they unpack how calmness, cooperation, congruent body language, and responsibility change the way people see you in any room. You’ll learn why calm authority beats dominance, why spotlighting others actually raises your own status, and how subtle shifts in posture and eye contact project confidence before you speak. Through client stories and science-backed insights, AJ and Johnny show how these hidden behaviors flip the script—turning you from overlooked to magnetic. What to Listen For [00:00:00] Why respect isn’t about dominance but presence [00:01:20] Calm authority as the strongest frame in any room [00:02:08] Why cooperation—not competition—earns lasting respect [00:02:34] How spotlighting others signals leadership [00:02:48] Congruent body language and stillness as confidence cues [00:03:31] Why intentional goals erase nervous energy [00:04:37] Taking responsibility as the ultimate trust builder [00:06:05] Client story: Shane’s promotion after flipping competitive signals [00:06:47] Low value vs. high value: notice me vs. I notice you [00:07:50] Weekly challenge: practice one high value signal per day [00:08:13] How the Influence Index reveals your default signals A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at ⁠⁠unlockyourxfactor.com⁠⁠ The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the ⁠⁠artofcharm.com/intel ⁠⁠for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at ⁠⁠makeheadway.com/CHARM ⁠⁠and use my code CHARM for 25% off. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at ⁠⁠SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM⁠⁠ TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Check in with AJ and Johnny! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:00.5	Why is it that some people walk into a room and instantly command respect without saying a word,
1:04.4	while others are ignored no matter how hard they try?
1:08.0	The secret isn't louder voices or bigger resumes.
1:12.9	It's hidden signals, subtle high-value behaviors that anyone can learn.
1:14.5	And today we're going to break them down.
1:26.3	Respect isn't about dominance. It's about presence.
1:29.3	And presence is built on the quiet signals that you send, your body language, how you give attention, the way you carry responsibility. The science is
1:37.0	clear. People decide how much they trust and respect you before they evaluate your skills.
1:43.1	And this is why in our coaching, we see people with
1:45.5	all the credentials, checking all the right boxes still being overlooked. And of course, we've discussed
1:53.3	it on the show. That personal rejection stings. And the more you get stung, the more it takes out
2:00.0	your morale. And eventually, you're unwilling
2:03.3	to give out that value anymore because the return isn't worth it. So what are the four hidden
2:10.3	signals of high value people? The first one is a calm authority. People respect someone who can
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