Why Emotion Comes Before Logic in Conversations With Your Spouse: Episode 382
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 18 February 2025
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
When you are not having the same type of conversation it is very easy to misunderstand each other. When there is misunderstanding it is easier to get frustrated and have the conversation escalate into a conflict. It is important to know which type of conversation you are having, a logical or emotional one, so that this doesn't happen.
As much as any one of us thinks we are logically minded people, there is still an underlying emotional need such as respect, understanding, love, partnership ect. This is definitely the case whenever there is some tension or upset. In those moments you have to realize that to be effective in your communication with each other, emotions come before logic. This statement can bring up a few questions so dive into this episode to undercover how to better identify when an emotional conversation is needed versus when you can stick to the logical details of a conversation.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast, where here you get modern, non-boring |
| 0:07.3 | relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on |
| 0:12.2 | the same team no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your hosts, Jocelyn Freeman, |
| 0:17.5 | and it'll actually be just me. I said to Aaron, hey, I got this inspiration for a topic. |
| 0:24.2 | I want to just go record it. And once in a while, we enjoy doing that. This topic, which is why |
| 0:31.6 | emotion comes before logic in conversations with your spouse, it came from a session that we just got off of. |
| 0:40.4 | And I was like, I just got to hit record and start to talk about it because it's been a theme |
| 0:45.9 | in several recent sessions. And you've probably heard us talk about that, how we just notice that |
| 0:51.2 | within a few days, a lot of the couples will have similar things coming up for |
| 0:55.5 | them. And so I thought, hey, podcast listeners will probably resonate with this as well. |
| 1:02.1 | So that topic, that title, it probably hit home because I'm sure you're thinking, wait, |
| 1:09.6 | one of us is trying to talk about a logical decision and the |
| 1:14.9 | other one of us is trying to be understood emotionally and it's creating conflict. Well, you're not |
| 1:20.5 | alone if that happens. And I'm going to talk about why. I'm going to talk about why emotion actually |
| 1:27.1 | comes before logic and also what to do about it. |
| 1:30.5 | But let me put some context out there. If you think about it, our romantic partner and the person |
| 1:37.5 | that we choose to build a life with is unlike any other relationship. There might be some, you know, similarity, some overlap in terms of you enjoy, you know, companionship |
| 1:49.0 | and fun with friends, just like you enjoy companionship and fun with your partner. |
| 1:53.8 | So there's some overlap. |
| 1:54.8 | But there are several aspects of a romantic partnership. |
| 1:59.7 | And for a lot of us, like marriage is even an entirely different |
| 2:04.4 | context for a relationship and we need to put that into perspective that even those points that |
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