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Why don’t you like yourself? Gabby Bernstein: How to stop numbing difficult emotions

Happy Place

Fearne Cotton

Society & Culture, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Personal Journals

4.615.2K Ratings

🗓️ 18 August 2025

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

Getting lost in anxiety, shame, or self-loathing? Spiritual leader Gabby Bernstein wants you to acknowledge all the messy parts of your true character. Spoiler: you’re not going suddenly to like yourself overnight, but acknowledging the uncomfortable bits will get you there sooner!


In this chat with Fearne, Gabby explains how ‘protector parts’ like perfectionism, people pleasing, and numbing out can spiral into extreme self-soothing behaviours like drug or porn addiction if they’re not dealt with.


Fearne and Gabby chat about anxiety as a protection mechanism, exploring why being focused on the heart palpitations and hyper-vigilance is stopping you dealing with your deeper wounds.


Plus, Fearne notices that her OCD is back so Gabby takes a moment to help her check in with her current stress levels – you can follow along with this exercise too!


Gabby’s latest book, Self-Help, is out now.


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0:00.0

Hello, a massive welcome to Happy Place with me, Fern Cotton. This is the show that gives you tools to understand yourself better.

0:08.3

Today, I'm chatting to Gabby Bernstein. You manifest what you believe. So you can do all the manifesting tools in the entire world, and you will keep manifesting the same core beliefs that you have inside of you.

0:20.1

And you may attract some thing in your life, but you have inside of you. And you may attract some

0:21.4

thing in your life, but you still feel like shit. And so the reason that self-help is the biggest

0:26.9

manifesting flex is because it actually changes your core beliefs. And when you change your core

0:32.9

beliefs, you change your point of attraction. And when you change your point of attraction,

0:35.9

that's when you become a magnet for what you do want. gang i hope you're doing okay i hope that your summer is going

0:41.0

well so far i'm in that funny middle bit in between happy place festivals we've done gunnersbury

0:46.4

park it was beautiful and we're gearing up for tatton park which i'm bloody excited about actually

0:51.5

and if you're a parent like me, I hope that you're managing

0:55.0

the juggle. It is full on. I've actually done some really nice things. I've tried to book a few

1:01.6

fun things. I'm taking the kids to a Concord Museum soon. Never done that before. I've seen a bit

1:07.1

of stand-up comedy lately. I'm trying to watch more because I just love

1:11.0

belly laughing. My new favourite comic is Cat Cohen. If you've not heard of Cat Cohen and you want

1:16.5

to laugh, oh my God, she is truly brilliant. She has like a sort of comedy cabaret show, which

1:21.7

she incorporates sort of cabaret-esque songs into her stand-up. she's just so naturally talented and funny. I've loved

1:31.9

watching her do stand-up this summer. So, so brilliant. And I've booked myself another escape room.

1:36.4

Do you remember me telling you ages ago that I did my first ever escape room? And actually,

1:40.7

when I first got in the room, I was like, what is this? this I don't understand I had no clue how to get out

1:46.0

and then I got so utterly obsessed by the idea of it so I'm going back I'm going back for more

1:53.0

got an escape room planned with my friend LaVashne can't bloody wait I hope whatever you're doing you're

1:57.5

having a good one maybe you've come to this podcast today because you just need a little bit of you time. I hope that you get that, even if it's just this hour

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