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Why Do Women Still Change Their Last Names?

Oversharing

Betches

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Education, Relationships, Mental Health, Self-improvement

4.71.9K Ratings

🗓️ 7 April 2026

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

Jordana is knee-deep in the name-change process, which spirals into an analysis with Dr. Naomi about why women are *still* doing this and why even the most self-proclaimed feminist men suddenly get real traditional when it’s their last name on the line. Meanwhile, one woman is desperately trying to figure out how to politely uninvite a new friend from her recipe club after a series of truly rancid vibe clashes, sparking a broader convo about how groups love to turn cliquey the second you look away. Elsewhere, a Betch navigating a family estrangement wants to know if she’s justified in holding a healthy boundary or if she’s about to get guilt-tripped into emotional self-sabotage. A young woman whose college years were basically sponsored by alcohol, is now stuck in a cycle of nightly wine-fueled anxiety management and intrusive thoughts, looking for an intention that doesn’t involve popping another bottle. A new mom, still rattled, seeks validation after a sketchy off-leash dog encounter that could’ve gone very differently (and not in a cute viral video way). And finally, one engaged couple is planning their wedding and realizing they may be expected to invite nine total strangers—because nothing says “our special day” like a guest list full of people you wouldn’t recognize in a lineup. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:39.3

medical podcast and does not constitute medical or psychological advice. Always seek the advice

0:43.7

of your physician or mental health professional. Hello and welcome back to Oversharing.

0:48.4

I'm Jordana Abraham. And I am Dr. Naomi Bernstein. Speaking of being Jordan and Abraham, I am now going through the process,

0:59.5

four and a half years after getting married, of changing my name.

1:03.8

Not professionally.

1:04.9

Professionally, I'm still Jordan to Abraham,

1:06.5

but I'm going through the process of legally changing it, like,

1:10.4

privately to Marinelli,

1:12.4

which feels like a little bit of a, of an identity shift in some ways. And also it's a huge pain in

1:20.2

the ass. Oh my gosh. I will say. Because now I'm like different things on different,

1:25.7

I'm in the middle of it. So I'm different things on different. My social security card and my license now say my new last name, but my passport still says my old last name. And I haven't changed it with like the banks and the airlines. They should make it like the common app where you just like fill it out once and everyone gets it. And sends it out to every, they just, you just select all the things for them to inform.

1:47.9

That's a good invention.

1:49.5

Maybe we should do that.

1:51.4

Do that.

1:52.1

Somebody out there with the technology and the, although there be a lot of identity theft.

1:57.6

So maybe not.

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