Why Do We Date People That Need Fixing? - Dr John Delony - #920

Modern Wisdom

Chris Williamson

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 5.9K Ratings

🗓️ 27 March 2025

⏱️ 124 minutes

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Dr. John Delony is a mental health expert, author, YouTuber and speaker. What does it mean to be a good partner? We all want fulfilling relationships, but building one involves a careful balance of give and take. How do you show up as a supportive partner and not just for your significant other, but also for yourself? Expect to learn why we date people we feel we need to fix, why it’s so hard to leave relationships even if we don’t have our needs met, advice for how to move on from breakups easier, how to gain control of your mind, how to deal with stressful situations better, how to be a better partner to your significant other and much more… Timestamps: (00:00) Different Levels Of Compassion (08:47) Is It Possible To Have Friendships With Those We Work With? (14:34) Do People Love You For Who You Are Or What You Do? (23:39) Advice On How To Support Men (28:30) Why Do We Tend To Be Critical Of Others? (31:52) Why Do We Feel The Need To Fix Those We Date? (42:58) Our Constant Search To Have Our Needs Fulfilled (46:12) Do We Find Fulfilment In Our Job? (52:35) Why Do We Stay In Relationships That Aren't Fulfilling? (58:30) Building Up Courage To Walk Away From A Relationship (01:09:54) How To Be More Intouch With Our Emotions (01:16:36) Learning How To Move On From A Relationship (01:22:26) Differentiating Grief And Depression (01:31:30) Where To Start With Processing Trauma (01:45:07) Chris' Interest In Evolutionary Psychology (01:51:52) Dealing With The Weights We Carry (02:02:04) Where To Find John Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get a 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get $350 off the Pod 4 Ultra at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Extra Stuff: John's website: https://ter.li/ldhkxh Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberma - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Dr. John Deloney. Welcome to the show. My man, Chris.
0:02.3	How are you?
0:02.7	Thanks for the, dude, I'm fantastic. I love being back in Texas. I was born and raised, man.
0:07.5	It's good. Are you adjusting?
0:09.3	I am slowly becoming native. Someone told me that I was allowed to use the word y'all because I've been here for three years now.
0:15.3	That's a huge, uh, that's a huge welcome, Matt. I get the sense. That's big, man. I get the sense that it is me being conned into saying the equivalent of the N word for texting people and the Texas Tribune is going to catch me hard a Ring my way through you all a couple of times. So I'm not falling for the sigh up. I can't quite get to that. I'm up to sidewalk and trash can, but you're all not yet.
0:40.6	What's the alternative to trash can? Rubbish. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You've got to be
0:45.7	careful with rubbish bin here. Rubbish bin. Yeah, you don't know what that means. Crack that open.
0:48.9	Come on, get it in you. All right. You've been waiting for this. I've been excited for this moment. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, you'll have an unlimited amount going to the office soon.
0:55.0	Well, I appreciate that.
0:55.9	Orange Sunrise for you.
0:56.9	Excellent.
1:00.6	This is my first one.
1:01.6	This is my live review.
1:03.5	Cherry Popper.
1:04.0	That's outstanding.
1:05.7	That's outstanding.
1:06.6	Well done, man.
1:07.3	Thank you.
1:07.9	Well done.
1:08.6	Good, man. Thank you. Well done. Good, good. Yeah, it's, you're now five IQ points smarter, 10.
1:12.5	Each sip is like...
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