Dear young married couple, have you ever felt completely connected to your spouse only to have them suddenly go cold?

You have to know, it's not about you. It's about this cycle. And today we're going to break it.

Yes. If you've experienced broken trust or even heightened conflict that's escalated over, you know, several years,

it can be really common for a spouse to shut down even when things are going well and their

spouse has demonstrated trustworthiness. And after 14 years of working with thousands of couples,

we've discovered one hidden cycle that keeps love

unstable. And once you see it, you can stop it. And so by the end of this podcast, you'll

understand the hidden reason your spouse withdraws and why it's not personal. You'll discover the number

one mistake that couples make when trying to

reconnect. And then lastly, we're going to spend time walking you through a simple five-step

method to build emotional security no matter the past wounds that you've experienced. All right. So

I'm thinking of a couple right now. We're going to call them Beth and Raul.

But Beth is having a hard time regulating her emotions because trust was broken. And when trust is broken, oh my goodness, it really does shatter the very foundation of the relationship.

But when Beth has a hard time regulating

her emotions, it's really hard for Raul to approach her and to try to really show himself

accountable to her, you know, show the relationship as it is and how he's feeling and what he's doing

to repair. But let me kind of explain what is happening in the relationship. So what, like,

as they're connecting, so they'll be having fun, let's say they're washing dishes and they're

just kind of connecting and it's more joyful than dishes and they're just kind of connecting and it's

more joyful than normal and they're just really having a good time. And all the sudden,

Beth will just pull away, shut down and sometimes even say something mean, really like

drastic. And Raul's like, I'm doing everything I can. Like,

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