Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins

A Gay and A NonGay

W!ZARD Studios

Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Comedy, Mental Health

4.3 • 632 Ratings

🗓️ 2 July 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by author, comedian and honorary sixth straight guest, Max Dickins! Max opens up about the inspiration behind his brilliant book Billy No-Mates — a deep-dive into male friendship sparked by the realisation he had no one to ask to be his best man. Together, they unpack the complexities of male friendships, masculinity, vulnerability, and why so many straight men are stuck in a “friendship recession”. The trio get hilariously real about everything from stag do admin to homophobic hang-ups around hugging, going for dinner (too gay?), and why Nando’s is apparently the safest middle ground. Plus, James shares his theory around why platonic love after heartbreak might just be more romantic than romance itself. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Domestic abuse isn't funny, but my show is, Hey Babes, it's me, James, and my stand-up hour.
0:06.1	Sorry, I hurt your son, said my ex to my mum, is playing London at my first ever off West End
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0:29.0	from the 30th of July to the 24th of August. You can grab tickets for both shows at my website,
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1:13.6	hi welcome to a gay and a non-gay.
1:15.6	Woo!
1:16.6	I'm Dan Hudson, I'm non-gay.
1:17.6	I wasn't wooing non-gays.
1:18.6	Sorry, I'm James, I'm gay.
1:21.6	Yes, and we are joined by a straight guide today.
1:23.6	Woo!
1:24.6	Another one?
1:25.6	Well, I've done the maths in over 400 episodes. I think we've had less than five well I've done the maths and over 400 episodes I think
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