Why Do People Cheat? (Deep Dive) (2019 Rerun)
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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July 26, 2019
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| 0:00.0 | Psychology in Seattle. |
| 0:07.0 | So Berto, someone, a patron, emailed us to talk about infidelity. |
| 0:11.6 | She had a lot of questions about infidelity and cheating and all that kind of stuff. |
| 0:16.6 | And I thought we would answer the questions. |
| 0:19.3 | And as I was preparing for this episode, I found myself doing kind of a mini deep dive on all the research and really my own clinical experience with infidelity and I guess anecdotal experience with infidelity. |
| 0:33.6 | I think it is a pretty complicated thing. |
| 0:36.5 | And I think there's a lot of misconceptions. |
| 0:39.3 | And so I thought we would do an episode in which we really talked for a while about infidelity. |
| 0:44.8 | What do you say? |
| 0:45.7 | Yeah, actually, the irony is that she was originally going to email a different podcast and then she emailed us. |
| 0:50.6 | Yeah. |
| 0:51.2 | So I want to read her email because I think it illuminates a lot of the concerns that people have about infidelity. It doesn't encapsulate everything, but I thought it would be a good jumping off point. I'm going to introduce the podcast in a second. I work with two people in my organization. They are having an affair. One woman is married and the other woman is single. It impacts our organization. Their interaction with the whole team can be productive at times and totally absent and withdrawn at other times. It's as if all of us jointly are experiencing the ups and downs of their secretive relationship. |
| 1:30.0 | It's confusing for me because I really respect her, or really respected her in the past tense, and I would never have pinned her as someone who cheats. |
| 1:39.9 | And then she has a bunch of questions. |
| 1:42.0 | Sometimes a partner who has been cheated on still |
| 1:46.5 | stays in the relationship. Why? Why do some partners knowingly accept that their partner is cheating? |
| 1:54.1 | If someone cheats, does it mean that they don't have integrity in other areas of their life? |
| 1:59.2 | Are they more likely to lie or shoplift? |
| 2:02.1 | If someone cheats once, are they more likely to cheat again? What about the single person in the |
| 2:09.1 | affair? Is there a future in the relationship for the quote-unquote homewreckers? If they are |
| 2:15.4 | desperate, if they desperately want a real relationship with this person, |
| 2:19.5 | do they not worry that this person may also cheat on them in the future? |
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