Why Do Narcissists Need You As A Foil?
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Dr. Les Carter
4.8 • 606 Ratings
🗓️ 21 February 2023
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
In the best case scenario, as you build relationships, you will be honest about your strengths and your weaknesses. Narcissists, however, are schemers attempting to establish superiority, and are not interested in honest relationships. In fact, their posturing is done for the purpose of setting themselves up as the gold standard, with you being the less-than-adequate one. That way, when the relationship eventually crumbles, you become the foil.
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| 0:56.9 | BetterHelp for sponsoring our podcast. Welcome to this week's episode of the Surviving Narcissism |
| 1:08.2 | podcast. This is Michaela, the program director, and I would like to start |
| 1:12.3 | this episode with a short introduction. For those of you new to this podcast, surviving narcissism is the |
| 1:17.9 | product of many years of work done by Dr. Aless Carter. Dr. Carter is a best-selling author and therapist, |
| 1:23.4 | with more than 40 years of experience, specializing in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. |
| 1:29.9 | This week, Dr. C's topic will be, why do narcissists need you as a foil? |
| 1:39.5 | Hey, team healthy. I want to talk with you today about how we get to know one another and what |
| 1:46.7 | kinds of motives we can have as we learn more and more about each other's personal lives. |
| 1:53.3 | There's a phrase that I like to use, and I want you to see if you can agree with this. |
| 1:58.9 | The phrase is, everyone's normal until you get to know them. |
| 2:04.2 | You know, it's inevitable as we see one another in our social milieu and we're on our best |
| 2:11.0 | behavior. |
| 2:12.1 | You can give the impression that things are okay and you don't have that many difficulties |
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