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I'm 11. Tammy welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you for taking my call.

Thank you.

I'm calling you because I some old wounds are suddenly coming back.

I am one of a very large family and I was a difficult child growing up from also I think I think I cried a lot of the baby I was moody angry but grumpy.

Both of my parents were often physically or verbally violent and mixing in my mother mixed in some affection in there but.

Anyway long story short as I grew up knowing that I don't like physically violent toward each other I'm not clear on who yes was on the receiving end.

I was and also my mother was so your dad would you work me and where their siblings.

Yes.

How many how old with respect to you?

I was oldest girl and then there were six others.

Wow.

And so I grew up in a very chaotic household and by the time I was a certain age I was expected to be my mother's shoulder to cry on moral support.

So I had a family that was in the house and so on.

But to this day anytime I talk to words pretty clear that I'm not one of the favorites.

Okay, maybe I ask you a question.

Yes.

You got two crappy parents both neurotic people.

Why are you worried about who she liked better.

Are you concerned about who's opinion matters?

Think about it.

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