I have come to realize through experiences that I have agency in this world.

There's a part of me that still feels five and at the mercy of my father's hand.

And there's a part of me that knows, hey, I have authority.

I have power. I have agency. My words matter and they impact people.

Guys, this is exciting for me. I have read Dr. Adam Young's work. I believe in how he communicates and what he's communicating. It's

real. It's raw. It's hard. It's hard to take in. But I love it. And I'm really honored to have

you here today. People are going to really enjoy this. And if you haven't heard of Dr. Adam Young, your podcast is called Tell

Everybody. The Place We Find Ourselves. So good. Every episode I've ever listened to from it just hits

you in the gut. It is so honest. It is so good. It's so helpful. And then your most recent book

makes sense of your story. Wow. I listened to it

actually over the summer and it was really life-changing. And it made me really want to do a lot of work

on my book. And I did work on it this summer because I thought,

gosh, this is, this is so key to what makes us human, what makes us. So why don't we start with just sharing a little bit about the book? What made you write it? And maybe you could

specifically talk about even just some of the relationships that shaped

you because that was really compelling.

I related to all of it.

Sure.

The reason I wrote it is it's the book I needed when I was mid-30s had a lot of emotional

dysregulation symptoms and did and needed orientation, like needed

them. Thankfully, in my 30s, someone gave me a copy of a book called The Wounded Heart by

Dan Allender, which was my introduction to the idea that I had a story and that my story in my growing up years

with my particular family of origin was playing out in my present day-to-day life as a 30-something

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