Well, I've certainly had episodes in my parenting walk where I have blown up.

I just, I waited, I held it in, but then it,

pep, my anger just spilled out and it wasn't pretty and I sure wish I could have a redo.

I'm John Fuller, you might relate.

We're going to hear now from Dr. Danny who has never blown up at his kids.

Now Danny, really there's usually something bigger going on than

the immediate circumstance when I lose my cool. Oh yeah so many different things

it can be in be stress it can be tired, it can be tiredness, it can be frustration, it can be feeling like you're not being listened to.

Another big one is a fear of losing control, a fear of what's happening around you and there's a fear base to a lot of it, you know,

fear of what's happening in my work. Maybe I'm not enough or it's a fear of not being liked in other places.

There's conflict within the marriage

that can spill over.

I call that meriting, John,

where it's spilling into our parenting and that stress is showing where we blow up.

Now one of them that's interesting, some parents will say I'm super patient and they really

are holding everything in and not dealing with it and their conflict

avoiders and then it comes out as an explosion at some point and that's because they haven't

taken the time to deal with things along the way.

So there are many different reasons why people lose their cool.

Well, we're going to turn now to a conversation with Ashley Willis,

who along with her husband, Dave, hosts a podcast and writes and speaks and

she and Jim Daly and I spoke about a time that Ashley got mad at her kids and

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