Why Creating & Setting Boundaries is Essential for Our Health

On Health for Women

Aviva Romm

Alternative Health, Medicine, Health & Fitness, Arts

4.8 • 1.4K Ratings

🗓️ 3 January 2024

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

At some point, too many of us internalized the belief that being a woman means complete self-sacrifice, not setting healthy boundaries for our well-being, and not taking care of our fundamental needs – even for sleep, quality food, and relaxation. Further, as moms, we often take on the lioness's share of the household. As partners, we plan the dates and stay in touch with old friends. At work, we pick up the slack of others without so much as a peep of protest. But here's the thing- often, others don't even notice that we are doing all of this extra work because we haven't set healthy boundaries - with ourselves or with them. We've been taught to be the "good girl" (definitely listen to last week's podcast episode ALL about this topic if you haven't yet) and with this, we also believe that boundaries are rude or selfish. So we give and give and give - at the expense of our well-being and sometimes at the expense of our own passions and fulfillment. Time for a reframe! Not only is having boundaries not selfish - but we are better givers when we practice conscious boundaries. And that's exactly what I'm talking about in this latest On Health episode. Tune in as I dish out my top tips to get you on your way to a boundary-setting queen! And learn all about why it's truly so important, just in time for the new year ahead and beyond. In this episode I share: What boundaries are, including the types we may overlook Why we have trouble setting boundaries How to know whether you need better boundaries in your life Exercises to support you in discovering your highest priorities and how to stick to them The boundary-setting practices to get you started and that really work And more - including my weird style tip that relates to boundaries I KNOW that many of you will have at least a few "aha" moments and maybe even have some tears of understanding. Listen and become your own boundaries badass! Thank you so much for taking the time to tune in to your body, yourself, and this podcast! Please share the love by sending this to someone in your life who could benefit from the kinds of things we talk about in this space. Make sure to follow your host on Instagram @dr.avivaromm and go to avivaromm.com to join the conversation. Looking for supplements for yourself and your family, including some of those I talk about in episodes? You can find those - and your 15% discount on every order here: avivaromm.com/supplements Practitioners - you can also learn how to create your own accounts at https://us.fullscript.com/practitioner-signup/AVIVA

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0:00.0	Hello, everybody and happy New Year. Welcome to 2024 on health, and I am so excited to be here with you.
0:09.7	I don't create New Year's resolutions, and I'll tell you why. I feel that they are just kind of a setup
0:17.5	for putting pressure on ourselves and then disappointment. And the research backs
0:23.0	me up. The research shows us that within three weeks, most people are not sticking to their
0:29.8	new year's resolutions and they're feeling pretty disappointed in themselves. But one thing I do
0:35.5	at the beginning of each year, I start doing it at the end of the year and then I kind of carry it into the new year with me, is reflect on how it is that I want to live my life. How do I want to feel going into each day? How do I want to feel in the middle of the day, at the end of the day?
0:56.9	And for me, the feeling that I really dislike the most is when I am under constant pressure
1:05.2	to do the next thing and do the next thing and do the next thing. And I'm sure y'all are
1:10.7	feeling me on that one.
1:12.8	So what I've found is that the way to keep from being in constant overwhelm, and believe me,
1:19.9	I get into overwhelm, too, is to take stock of my priorities. How is it that I want to feel each day?
1:26.7	And for me, what I don't want to feel each day is constant pressure and this constant feeling like I'm never doing enough, never getting it all done. And that tends to happen when we overload what we've got on our plates, what we've taken on. Taking on too much is a big issue for so many
1:46.5	of us, myself included. And if you're a busy professional, if you're a mom, all the things,
1:53.5	there's already an inherent big load on your plate. You know, there's an expression. If you
1:59.2	want something done, ask a busy person. And I'm often the
2:04.2	busy person that gets asked because I get stuff done. We also know that when we're as women in a
2:11.3	circle of folks at maybe a board meeting or a PTA meeting or whatever kind of gathering it is, it's often
2:19.1	the mom or the woman or the busy woman who raises their hand to volunteer or when they're asked
2:26.1	says yes. And all of a sudden, we find too many things on our plate. One of the clear symptoms for me
2:33.7	of having too many things on your plate is One of the clear symptoms for me of having too many things on your plate
2:35.9	is when something that you've said yes to gets canceled and you're actually secretly thrilled.
2:42.1	You kind of do a happy dance when that event or gathering or whatever it was that you were
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