I think it's important because number one, many of us are living our life beneath our potential

because we have pegged our potential to another person, just not realizing what God has placed

on the inside of us. And so to your point, we basically set our sights on what another person

has done or has achieved. And so I believe that the richest place on earth is the cemetery

because there are so many people who died full of unrealized potential.

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Everyday Woman. Come invited, leave ignited. Here's your host, Jordan Lee Dooley.

Hey, no, no, welcome to She. Hey, thanks for having me. Absolutely. I am really looking forward

to this conversation about comparison and how we can tackle that. But before we dig into all of the

tactical questions and all the things I want to ask you, I'd love if you can share a little bit

more of your story and your background as well as what led you to choose to write about overcoming

comparison. Well, I'll try to keep it super concise. But I will say honestly, it is my background

and my upbringing that I think really created the conditions under which I wrote the book. So just

very quickly, I was raised in a home with a mom who had never wanted to have children.

She, she had an heir to my father for actually 13 years, of course she found out she was pregnant.

He was super excited, but he passed away shortly before my second birthday. And so my mother

moved us to the other side of the country and she got involved with a guy who became her

living boyfriend. And I was not five years old when he moved in and unfortunately shortly after he

moved in, he became sexually abusive to me. And my mom similarly became verbally abusive and

physically abusive. And so there were a lot of things that were done to me, a lot of things that

were said to me that frankly structured my identity. And I didn't grow up in a Christian household,

you know, I, my husband, I have a church now. And so I haven't really been understanding

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