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The Chase Jarvis LIVE Show

Why Comparing Yourself to Others is the Best and Worst Thing You Can Do

The Chase Jarvis LIVE Show

Chase Jarvis

Celebrity, Art, Career, Creativity, Money, Entrepreneurship, Self-improvement, Education, Careers, Writing, Interview, Investment, Influencer, Business, Photography

4.8641 Ratings

🗓️ 5 December 2018

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

Stop me if any of this sounds familiar: You’re lurking a peer’s social media account, and what started as a cursory browse quickly takes a detour down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and envy: “S/he is so much better at X or Y than I am – I’ll never catch up! Look at his/her amazing X or Y and s/he’s always hanging with X or Y celebrity and nobody even knows who I am – ugh, I should just quit and do something else, I’m just not cut out for this” – and so forth.

If the above scenario rings painfully true for you, it’s because you’ve felt the power of something embedded deep in the semi-conscious, caveman part of our brains: a powerful engine for comparison – one that works with ruthless efficiency.

Occasionally we have the wherewithal to AVOID that ruthless voice in our heads that doesn’t serve us – and it’s common knowledge that we’re doing ourselves a favor when we do so.  But – at the risk of taking an unpopular stance here, I believe that comparative thinking can be — in fact, MUST be — a part of any creative pro’s toolkit.

In this episode,

  • Comparing yourSELF – that is, your overall “worth” as a human being – to others is harmful and undermining your goals. Remind yourself that you are worthy. You are enough.  You are a good human. And remind yourself, “That’s their highlight reel”.
  • Comparative thinking is not only good, but vital for creative pros: Make a habit of reviewing the WORK of others. You must compare your work to the best, and you must do it with an unflinchingly honest eye, and with the explicit goal of learning from the comparison, using what you learn to improve your own work.
  • Real craft stands out. People gravitate to strong, creative work.  Done with stamina.  Over time.  And consistency.
  • and much more.

Enjoy!

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey guys, what's up? It's Chase. I want to welcome you to another episode of the show.

0:09.0

This show is slightly different than some others because I am talking about one thing and one thing only.

0:14.1

I've got no guests. And the thing I'm talking about is why comparing yourself to others is the worst and best thing that you could possibly do.

0:27.1

And if you're a normal human right now, you're saying, wait a minute, those things contradicts one

0:30.4

another. I need to know the answer. And that's why I'm here. That's what this episode is all about.

0:35.8

So lean back a little bit, enjoy, you know, the,

0:39.0

the warm sound of my voice in your ears. And let me tell you a little story. First, of course,

0:45.1

stop me if any of this sounds familiar. You are there, picture yourself lurking a peers social

0:51.6

media account. What started as a little cursory sort of browse and scroll,

0:57.3

suddenly takes a detour down the rabbit hole of self-doubt.

1:01.5

A detour down the rabbit hole of envy.

1:04.9

Wait a minute, he or she, gosh, they're better at X or Y than I am.

1:09.2

I'll never catch out probably.

1:11.7

Look at his or her amazing X or Y.

1:15.3

Gosh, they're always hanging with A, B, or C celebrity or the person that I envy.

1:22.6

And you know what?

1:23.1

No one probably even knows who I am.

1:25.9

Maybe I should just call it quits and do something else.

1:27.9

I'm just not cut out for this.

1:29.8

And on and on.

1:30.9

Has that ever happened to you?

1:32.5

Here's the thing.

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