Why Communicating About Sex is So Difficult and The Orgasm Gap with Becky Lund-Harket

Doing It! with Hannah Witton

Global Media & Entertainment

Health & Fitness, Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture

4.8 • 651 Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2021

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Becky Lund-Harket, who is the Head of Public Engagement and a workshop facilitator at the School of Sexuality Education as well as the founder of the Candid Collective. Becky discusses why people feel dissatisfaction in sexual and romantic relationships (spoiler: it's because of poor communication!) and gets into why we find communication so difficult, as well as talking about some good and bad examples from TV. Becky and Hannah talk about the orgasm gap, how sex ed can help to close that gap, and why orgasms shouldn't be the main focus of pleasure. Finally, Hannah and Becky discuss the double standards involved with nudes and sexting.

✨MORE ABOUT BECKY LUND-HARKET✨
Becky Lund-Harket (she/her) is the Head of Public Engagement and a Workshop Facilitator at School of Sexuality Education. School of Sexuality Education deliver workshops for young people on topics ranging from porn, consent and healthy relationships to periods and genital anatomy. Their approach is intersectional, feminist, non-binary and sex positive. They support young people and those working with them to ensure everyone has access to a complete, inclusive and comprehensive sex and relationships education.

Becky is also the Founder of The Candid Collective. Candid host fun and informative workshops for adults across London and online. Their discursive and research-led events focus on sex, bodies and relationships with the aim of starting open conversations.

Becky strongly believes that the quality of the relationships we have, including with ourselves, determine the quality of our lives.

- School of Sexuality Education: https://schoolofsexed.org/
- The Candid Collective Website: https://www.thecandidcollective.com/

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0:00.0	At Wix, save on Dulek standard 2.5 litre coloured emulsion, was £23, now 15.
0:06.0	Feel as proud as a peacock with Wix.
0:08.3	Ends Wednesday in terms apply.
0:10.1	An orgasm, like you say, isn't like the be all and end all.
0:13.3	It does indicate or kind of, it does affect people's sexual satisfaction.
0:24.8	So again, without being kind of always the end goal, or it's definitely not the most important thing, but it can be, it does feel important to people.
0:28.5	Whether or not that's to do with feeling like it should be the end goal is a difficult question.
0:38.8	Welcome to Doing It with me, Hannah Whitten, where we talk all things, sex, relationships, dating and our bodies.
0:50.6	Hi, welcome back to doing it. How are you? I have been really giddy and full of childish hyper
0:57.3	energy today and just been in a great mood and I've no idea why, but I'm just going to run with it.
1:03.8	Maybe it's because on the day of recording this, it's really sunny. Or it could be because I've been
1:09.7	doing loads of painting recently. For my birthday,
1:12.8	my parents got me a custom paint by numbers. And so I have been spending hours, and I mean
1:18.1	hours, doing very detailed painting and it is slowly coming together to look like a photo of me
1:25.6	and my best friends on my wedding day.
1:27.6	It is so satisfying to see it all starting to appear.
1:32.4	Anyway, I just thought I would share that little piece of joy with you because if you
1:35.2	didn't know, I'm really trying to center joy and playfulness in my life this year and all
1:40.2	kinds of pleasure, not just sexual pleasure.
1:43.5	But on the topic of sexual pleasure, though,
1:46.3	do you like that? Segway? My guest and I today get into talking about pleasure research and the
1:52.7	orgasm gap. So my guest in this episode is Becky Lundarket, who is a facilitator with the School
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