Why Can’t I Ask For What I Need?

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 28 May 2024

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren’t. Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels. She’s seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs…until it’s become problematic. We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY — so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing your needs, listening to this conversation will get you processing your own story and give you some steps you can take to begin making changes in this really important area of your life!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Are you a smart booker or a silly booker?
0:07.0	Smart bookers get access to a three airport lounge by booking a five-star holiday with On the Beach.
0:13.0	Silly bookers? Well, enjoy those cues at the bar.
0:17.0	Stop booking around and visit Onthebeach.co.
0:20.0	Conditions apply. Seven night minimum stay, outbound only from selected airports from stop booking around and visit on the beach.com.
0:22.2	Conditions apply.
0:24.7	Seven night minimum stay, outbound only from selected airports for up to six people, at all protected.
0:28.7	On the beach.
0:33.4	I can't imagine that it's going to feel great
0:35.8	moving on in decades of friendship with my sister,
0:39.8	and I never express a need.
0:43.2	I'm already defeated feeling from that.
0:46.0	So how do I ask for a need from someone who I know cannot meet it?
0:56.8	Are you ready to talk to me?
0:59.1	My name is Deborah Felita and I'm a licensed professional counselor, national speaker,
1:03.9	and author.
1:05.2	Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of helping millions of people
1:09.7	get healthy mentally, emotionally,
1:11.9	spiritually, and relationally. The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic,
1:18.4	counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests
1:24.7	and callers an opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor.
1:30.0	Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all on the journey of healing,
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