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The Cut

Why Bother Being Nice?

The Cut

New York Magazine

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4.41.7K Ratings

🗓️ 17 November 2021

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

No matter who you are, inevitably there is someone telling you to “be nicer” or “stop being so nice”. Girlbosses preach that nice girls don't get the corner office, and yet Instagram slogans plead to "be nice." But what is niceness? Is it a virtue? A defense mechanism? A personality trait? And how can one try to be nice in a mean world? Avery Trufelman turns to Jonathan Van Ness for answers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:37.8

What if there was a better way to talk to all your friends than through a thousand

0:42.2

different messaging apps on a thousand different platforms? What if you could

0:45.2

just find the show you wanted without browsing through infinite tiles in a

0:49.7

hundred different streaming apps? What if you could have all of your stuff

0:53.1

everywhere without dealing with some crummy user interface on some unknowable

0:58.8

file sharing platform? This month on the VergeCast we're looking into

1:02.0

connectivity. How we talk to each other, how we talk to our stuff, how we find

1:06.7

things online. All this month on the VergeCast available wherever you get

1:11.1

podcasts. Thanksgiving is coming up fast and this year we're not unlocked

1:17.6

down anymore. So group gatherings are back, which means we'll need to be on our

1:22.7

best behavior to get through the night. We'll need to be nice, even if it pains

1:28.5

us, because you know there will be a lot of opinions being shared at the table.

1:33.5

So we at The Cut are here with a little motivation for you. It's an episode from

1:38.1

earlier this year that asks the question, why be nice? So grab a drink of water,

1:43.4

do some breathing exercises, and have a listen. Here's Avery Truffelman. The Cut. The Cut. The Cut.

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