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When you've been hurt by your spouse, it can be so easy to start criticizing

him or her for all of the problems in your relationship. But blaming them only

makes things worse, not better. Today you'll hear a powerful story from a couple

who were rocked by an affair. And the wife chose to love her husband instead

of playing the blame game. I'm John Fuller along with my focus on the family

colleagues. Dr. Greg Smolley and his wife Aaron Smolley and Aaron, it's toxic

for us to be blaming our mate after we've been hurt. But why is that? Well, it's

interesting because when you're blaming someone else, you're actually taking

the focus off of you. So in many ways, you're not able to focus on your own

personal growth, but you're also not able to effectively communicate what is

going on for you because you're focused on what the other person is or isn't

doing. And so there's something so powerful about stepping back and just

reflecting on what is going on for me. If my spouse has done this and it hurt me,

how does that impact me? And then I can go and share, well, that hurt me. And

this is what I feel, you know, I feel rejected. I feel invalidated. I feel

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