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The Dad Edge Podcast

Why Being a 'Nice Guy' Might Be Hurting You!

The Dad Edge Podcast

Larry Hagner

Project, Self-improvement, Stevenson, Podcast, Edge, Education, Kids, Shawn, Family, Kids & Family, Fathers, Fatherhood, Community, Advice, Dad, Good, Health & Fitness, Children

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 20 June 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever asked yourself:

  • "My wife calls me 'nice,' but why does it feel like a subtle insult?"
  • "Why am I constantly chasing connection, and how do I stop walking on eggshells?"
  • "What does it really mean to lead in my marriage without being controlling?"

If you’ve ever felt like, "I don’t even know what happened—she just drifted," this episode is your wake-up call to reclaiming your magnetic masculine presence.

Welcome back to The Dad Edge Podcast. This is Week 3 of our 4-part solo series called The Magnetic Masculinity Series—where we’re unpacking how to attract your wife back, not through tactics, but by becoming the man she’s instinctively drawn to again. In Week 1, we talked about resentment—how it leaks into marriage when we ignore the signs. In Week 2, we revealed the emotional weight she’s carrying—the invisible labor that most men never see.

And now in Week 3, we’re diving into the Masculine Pull: what it truly means to lead with strength, not submission. Because here’s the truth: she doesn’t want a man who obeys. She wants a man she can trust to lead—not control, not dominate—but lead with clarity, strength, and grounded presence.

 Extraordinary marriages start here

In this vital episode, we dig into:

  1. The Critical Difference Between Pleasing and Pursuing: Understanding why pleasing is approval-seeking and kills attraction, while pursuing is confident, directional, and inviting.
  2. Masculine Presence vs. Anxious Attachment: Learn to cultivate a calm, grounded energy that can handle her emotions without needing to fix them, creating safety and desire, rather than asking "Are we okay?" every time she's quiet.
  3. Rebuilding Polarity: Why Attraction Dies When Roles Blur: Discover how the charge between masculine and feminine energy gets lost when roles become indistinguishable, and why becoming more stable (not more emotional) is the key to reigniting that spark.

This conversation offers the blueprint for becoming the magnetic man your wife is drawn to, leading with a quiet consistency that speaks louder than words.

Here's what research and relationship dynamics highlight:

  • Studies suggest that relationships lacking clear polarity or directional leadership often report a 30% decrease in passionate intimacy over time.
  • Men who embody calm, grounded presence are perceived as 40% more attractive and trustworthy by their partners.
  • When a man consistently takes initiative with empathy, couples report a 25% increase in feelings of partnership and mutual respect.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Dad Edge podcast. The Dad Edge movement creates leaders of men,

0:07.7

leaders of families, and leaders of communities. We will not only impact this generation of

0:12.9

fathers, but the next generation as well. The kids we are raising will have better chances and

0:18.4

odds stacked in their favor because of the amazing example

0:21.2

that their fathers emulated for them. We are here to change the world. We are here to change

0:27.5

relationships. We are here to positively disrupt this generation of fathers so no man goes to their

0:33.5

grave with regret. We disrupt the drift of busyness and replace it with razor-focused

0:39.1

intention, passion,

0:41.4

purpose, and direction.

0:43.7

We are the Dad Edge

0:45.4

and we're here to change

0:47.3

the game.

0:47.8

We're here to change the game. If your wife is saying, hey, yeah, you're a nice guy. Well, that might not be a compliment.

1:09.0

Man, if you're anything like me, I am a recovering nice guy.

1:14.5

And if you haven't read that book by Dr. Robert Glover, you know, no more Mr. Nice Guy.

1:19.2

That is one of the best books out there.

1:21.0

And it's for all of us guys who do things because we're chasing, because we're needy,

1:27.4

because we're kind of desperate.

1:28.5

Because at the end of the day, what we're really trying to ask ourselves is, am I good enough?

1:32.9

Am I attractive enough? Do I make enough money? Am I good enough in bed? Am I enough for these kids?

1:38.4

Am I a good enough dad? And a lot of what we do is through validation. So we're just overly nice because we so badly want that stamp of approval.

1:47.5

And if you're anything like me, guys, man, like, trust me, I get it.

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