"Why 'Bad Behavior' Isn't Bad Parenting — And the Harmful 'Raised Right' Myth About Autism & ADHD"
THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST
Holly Blanc Moses
4.9 • 686 Ratings
🗓️ 9 April 2026
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
If you've ever felt that gut punch…
The side eye.
The comment.
The subtle (or not so subtle) message that your child is "too much"…
or that you're somehow getting it wrong as a parent…
I get it!
In this episode of The Autism ADHD Podcast, I'm talking about something that so many parents and therapists experience… but we don't talk about enough:
- The "good kid / bad kid" narrative
- The "they were raised right" comments
- And the damage this causes for autistic and ADHD kids — and their families
This episode was inspired by two real-life moments that happened just days apart… and they both reminded me how deeply rooted these beliefs are in our society.
Here's what we dive into:
- Why behavior is often misunderstood (and what's actually underneath it)
- How neurological differences are mistaken for "bad behavior"
- Why shame is NOT a teaching tool (and what it actually does)
- The emotional toll on parents of autistic and ADHD children
- How masking develops — and why it can be dangerous
- Why families begin to withdraw and isolate
- The invisible, extraordinary work of neurodivergent parenting
This episode is for you if:
- You're parenting an autistic or ADHD child and feel judged or misunderstood
- You're a therapist, counselor, or psychologist supporting neurodivergent kids
- You've ever wondered why your child's behavior doesn't "match" expectations
- You're trying to understand meltdowns, shutdowns, and emotional regulation
- You want a neurodiversity-affirming approach
You are going to LOVE this episode:)
Sincerely, Holly Blanc Moses, The Mom/Neurodivergent Therapist
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About Holly Blanc Moses: Holly Blanc Moses is an AuDHD psychologist with 28 years of experience. She is a speaker, consultant, continuing education provider, and host of The Autism ADHD Podcast, Autism ADHD TV, and parent masterclasses.
About the Podcast
The Autism ADHD Podcast is for parents and professionals who want a neurodiversity-affirming approach to supporting autistic and ADHD children and teens — with a focus on emotional regulation, executive functioning, mental health, and connection.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Autism-AdHD podcast. |
| 0:06.7 | It's the place to be for nerdiversity affirming parents and professionals. |
| 0:11.9 | I'm your host, Holly Blanc Moses, the mom nerd aversion therapist. |
| 0:16.4 | Here we chat about emotional regulation, mental health, social support, executive functioning, |
| 0:23.4 | learning, and more, all aimed at empowering us to support kids and teens with compassion |
| 0:29.8 | and understanding. |
| 0:31.7 | I'm thrilled that you join me today and I've got some pretty exciting news to share with you. |
| 0:37.6 | For those rock star therapists listening right now, |
| 0:41.6 | I've created continuing education training that is tailor-made for you. |
| 0:47.7 | Take a deep dive into cutting-edge strategies that you can start using today. |
| 0:54.4 | The CEs you've wanted for so long are finally here. |
| 0:59.6 | Go to hollyblankmosis.com forward slash C.E. Training and sign up. |
| 1:07.0 | You are going to love it. |
| 1:09.5 | The link is also available in the show notes. |
| 1:12.8 | Now, if you are a parent or educator listening |
| 1:15.9 | and you know a therapist or a psychologist |
| 1:19.1 | that is passionate about supporting kids and teens, |
| 1:22.7 | I greatly appreciate it if you could pass on this great news. |
| 1:27.2 | Thanks so much again for your support. |
| 1:29.3 | And let's get started. |
| 1:42.0 | Welcome back to the Autism, ADHD podcast. |
| 1:46.2 | For those who are regular listeners, thank you for being incredibly loving and supportive. |
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