If love is a commitment of my will to your needs and best interests regardless of the

cost, then it is not in your needs and best interests to be doing something that is toxic

to a relationship.

So I've got to speak up.

I often ask people this question when there's some struggle in your life, I said, if you

had your choice of being wounded or kissed, which would you choose?

Well, I thought the Bible makes a distinction and it says depends on who's doing the wounding

and who's doing the kissing.

Versus faithful are the wounds of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.

And so if we say we love our spouse and we're letting them continue in a pattern that is

just sucking the life out of our love story, how is that love?

Welcome to Family Life Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter

most.

I'm Ann Wilson.

And I'm Dave Wilson and you can find us at familylifetoday.com or on the Family Life app.

This is Family Life Today.

Here's a question for you.

Do you think I'm a high controlling person?

No.

Do you think I'm a controlling person?

I don't.

At all.

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