"Why Am I Always Cold and Defensive?" Attachment Styles with Lauren Sanderson

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Society & Culture, Mental Health, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Sexuality

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🗓️ 30 July 2024

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

Lauren Sanderson, iconic queer musician, shares her personal journey of understanding her avoidant attachment style, influenced by her upbringing with divorced parents. She discusses the challenges she faced, how it affected her romantic relationships, the anxious-avoidant trap, and her path to healing. Mal opens up about her anxious attachment style and how she has worked towards healing this as well. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-love, vulnerability, authenticity, and setting boundaries. Follow our guest @laurensanderson and check out her new song "Play A Part" on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/3msKu3UeQoQGu2jjvUaP0S?si=7ZO5N8d4SQKbk8h4P01aXg Find Lauren's tour dates at: https://www.laurensanderson.com/tour Please don't forget to leave us a review, rate us on Spotify, and share with someone who has an anxious attachment style! For all other inquiries please email [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	I was in a relationship and I noticed the same exact thing.
0:04.0	This is a pattern. Every person I'm dating feels like I don't care about them.
0:09.2	It feels like I don't give them enough reassurance.'m cold it was always like you're so cold and
0:16.0	distant you get you get shut down I'm like I don't feel like I'm doing that but maybe
0:21.0	there's something I'm not seeing and it's I mean seriously like if
0:25.2	there's if you're in a relationship in every single relationship you're in the person
0:29.7	tells you the same thing there's got to be some truth to that like you can't just keep
0:33.9	like dying on this hill of like they're wrong they're wrong Hey all, welcome back to Made It Out. Thank you for being here with us another week.
0:48.8	I'm so excited for today's conversation.
0:51.3	I'm here with queer artist musician Lauren Sanderson and
0:55.2	we're talking about how she's overcome her avoidant attachment style and how I've
1:00.3	overcome an anxious attachment style.
1:02.4	All right let's dive anxious attachment style.
1:02.6	All right, let's dive in.
1:04.1	Attachment styles in three, two, one.
1:07.4	Here we go.
1:08.5	Tell me about you.
1:11.9	Tell me about, I want to know where did you grow up and kind of what was your family
1:15.6	structure like and okay so I grew up in Indiana I was born I have my mom and
1:22.4	my dad my dad's a cancer my mom's a Scorpio that's already insane
1:26.8	Two years after I came out of the womb my parents got a divorce and I remember nothing of course but my childhood was like it
1:37.8	was complex I would say growing up in the Midwest it's very hard to have enough space to
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