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My family gets together once a year on Thanksgiving. I'm recently remarried and my wife hasn't had

much of a chance to bond with my family due to COVID, and we are all looking forward to getting

everyone together. Unfortunately, my elderly parents just told me that they've also invited my ex-wife

to dinner, which I'm adamantly against. My ex has known these people for 20 years, and that

familiarity and level of comfort will make it hard, in my opinion, for my new wife to fit in.

She insists that I could go without her, but if she won't go, then I'm not going to go as my

place is by her side. My family says that my wife isn't that very nice. You're remaining steadfastly

loyal to your second wife. Good. That's a man of principle. My family says that my wife should

just suck it up and deal, and that if we're not there, we'll ruin Thanksgiving for everybody.

So am I the asshole for thinking my ex should make other plans and not attend my family's dinner?

Yeah, you're the asshole. I think I'm a number for a number of reasons.

We're set in asshole. First is getting divorced in the first place, and this is why you don't get

divorced. Divorced. You just make everything complicated for everybody. You make everything worse

and everything complicated for everybody for the rest of your life, including yourself. That's

what happens if you get divorced. And your family, or keep in mind, when you get married,

it's not just you. The two of you are not the only ones affected. You have families,

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