The subject is for tonight who meets my needs. I'm sure that marriage seminars and marriage books and marriage tapes and endless

discussion about marriage has done a lot to help many people. I also ponder the possibility

that there is a very negative result of a lot too much discussion of this kind of thing.

And that is the fact that there's always a temptation to emphasize the negative and Susie hears Mary talk about

what George doesn't do for Mary and Susie starts thinking, gee whiz John doesn't do that for me either and

I'm missing out on something he's not meeting all my needs

needs that she had never thought of as needs before that never occurred to her

she was missing out on until she hears a whole lot of other people talk about their problems.

So you're listening to somebody who's spent most of her life single, ironically.

Lars, my husband is husband number three, but neither of the first two lasted very long.

Lars has lasted almost 14 years now, which is far longer than the first two put together.

It's just about twice as much as the first two put together.

But because I've had three husbands, certainly doesn't mean that I know three times as much about marriage as most of you.

And the marriages didn't last very long. My mother said to me long before I ever got married the first time.

She said you won't know your husband until you've been married to him for at least five years.

So by that standard I didn't know either of the first two.

Jim lasted 27 months.

Ad Leach, my second husband died of cancer after 4 and a half years.

So when I think of this business of meeting my needs and I had to sort of scratch my head

a little bit when the topic was suggested to me by Michael Stokey.

What does he mean by that?

And then I thought, well, yes, I do hear this kind of language a lot

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