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Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs

When Your Partner Won't Change: Relationship Advice for Codependents: RED FLAG ALERT

Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs

Lisa A. Romano

Self-improvement, Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness

4.8805 Ratings

🗓️ 8 December 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever been accused of being a problem simply because you brought up a problem? In healthy relationships, it is essential that couples feel safe and are on the same page. It is normal to want your relationship to grow, and to wonder where the line is when it comes to bringing things to your partner's attention that you would like to change. However, there are red flags you need to be aware of particularly if you struggle with fawning, people pleasing, insecure attachment and tend to be the codependent partner in relationships. 

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano Codependency Expert and Breakthrough Life Coach, helps us get clear about some communication guidelines that can help us make clear, logical, and fair decsions about our relationships.

  • Does your partner accuse you of being the only problem simply because you want to talk about a problem?
  • Are they passive-aggressive, and do they punish you for bringing up an issue you'd like to work out?
  • Do they deny a problem exists at all, making it impossible for you to experience any movement forward in your relationship or resolution?
  • Are you being gaslit, devalued, or ignored for talking about a real issue?

Consider these red flags, and also ask yourself:

  • Does my partner have the willingness to listen?
  • Are they capable of real change?
  • Do they want to work on the relationship?

Before walking away or making any major life decisions, getting clear about your partner's behaviors, intentions, and level of willingness to discuss, change, or work on marital issues, allows you to act on your own behalf with confidence rather than codependently.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to Breakdown to Breakthrough, the podcast that empowers you to transform your life

0:04.8

by awakening to your true authentic self. I'm Lisa A. Romano, your host, as an award-winning author

0:10.6

and certified life coach, I've dedicated my life to helping others understand the incredible

0:16.0

power of an organized mind. I believe that true empowerment begins with awakening to our false self.

0:23.2

I created the Conscious Healing Academy, a three-part coaching and brain retraining program designed

0:28.6

to help individuals triumph over trauma and turn the breakdowns into powerful breakthroughs.

0:34.5

My mission is to support you on your journey toward mental and emotional

0:38.6

regeneration through conscious and deliberate awakening. In this podcast, I'll share insights,

0:44.5

tools, and transformative stories that illuminate the path to healing and self-discovery.

0:50.0

So today we're going to be talking about the perils that you might face in a relationship

0:54.5

or anyone might face in a relationship when they find themselves having a relationship with

1:00.8

someone who won't change.

1:04.1

And this gets to be murky water because the goal really isn't to focus on changing someone

1:10.0

else. The goal really is to focus on changing

1:12.6

yourself. And however, there are times in our lives when it is absolutely essential that our

1:19.4

partners do change. And we have to ask ourselves, especially in light of how often we're told

1:25.8

don't focus on changing anyone else, focus on changing yourself, especially in light of how often we're told don't focus on changing anyone else, focus on changing

1:28.9

yourself, especially in the line of work that I do.

1:32.7

I help people recover from codependency, narcissistic abuse.

1:37.1

I help people heal the inner child and recognize in themselves ways in which they have

1:43.0

been placing their focus outside of themselves

1:46.0

and expecting to change something that they can't change.

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