Hi, I'm Anna Marie Cox and welcome to With Friends Like These.

Rebecca Carroll's story is unusual.

It's important and instructive because it's unusual.

Her mother was white, her father black.

She was adopted into a white family and then raised in a new Hampshire town where she

was the only black person, the only one.

And her story tells us a lot about blackness because she had to figure it out for herself.

Her memoir, surviving the white gays, outlines her tumultuous journey, navigating an intense

and confusing relationship with her birth mother, her ambivalent relationships with white

friends and boyfriends, and her struggle to get right with her own body.

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