All right, so what if your husband isn't overly romantic? What do you do?

I'm John Fuller joined by my focus colleagues, Aaron Greg Smalley and Aaron let me send this question your way

You've got a counseling practice you see couples all the time if you hear a wife express a desire for, you know, I just wish he'd initiate more often,

what's going on? What's her heart really saying?

And I'm guessing she's saying, can he initiate connection? I want to feel connected, I want to

feel pursued and so it's really looking under the waterline and going what is

she really wanting because I'm guessing for most men they probably when she says why aren't you more romantic he's like what does that even mean

So your failure I tried and yeah, yeah, I tried that and I'm not going to try that anymore, whatever happened, but just looking at it that it's really a bid for connection and she's desiring emotional connection and also I hear all the time I want to be pursued by him

because at one point he did pursue and then often that pursuit stops after

they're married and settled in because as human beings we become so

comfortable and conditioned to just assume like oh yeah they're here and but you know

light it up and start pursuing your wife. Well we're going to hear a clip from two women about this topic.

Felicia Masonheimer and Lisa Jacobson have written a fun book.

It's called The Flirtation Experiment.

And in a previous episode episode Lisa shared about a time

that her husband tried to be romantic while she was cutting onions. And so she might

make reference to that in this part. But let's go ahead and listen in to these great insights as Felicia and Lisa talk with Focus President Jim Daly.

Lisa, what you're talking about there is attitude. And you know I think some wives hearing you right now

are okay there's more guilt for me you know so address that it's not about

guilt it's about choosing wisely how to manage that

area of your life right and that I mean yeah paying attention to the onions doesn't

give you much payback paying attention to your husband actually does in so many ways.

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