Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to an episode of love and abuse. All the information on this show is meant for educational

purposes only,

always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

And today's battle has to do with what I would call the flying monkeys of an emotional abuser.

And flying monkeys is a narcissistic abuse term where the

narcissist will convince people, your friends, your family, their friends, their family,

your co-workers, your boss, anyone in your life, that you are the bad guy and they are the victim.

The flying monkeys believe what the narcissist tells them.

And they are just blind followers to whatever the narcissist says.

And I'm going to call them blind followers today because not everyone is a flying monkey.

Some people just come up with a

conclusion because they were told that conclusion and an emotionally abusive person is very good

or at least some of them are very good at telling people what the conclusion is about you.

What is their analysis of you becomes the blind followers belief.

And that sucks.

That sucks for you because now you have to take the harder road of trying to reverse that conclusion, trying to convince them of something else.

But in this episode, I'm going to tell you not to convince anyone of anything.

In fact, I'm going to give you some tools, some principles, some questions that you can

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