Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to episode 74 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today I have with me a survivor and she's going to share her story and her name is Catherine. So welcome to the podcast, Catherine.

Thanks, Natalie. Okay, so the first question is how did you meet your husband and did you notice any red flags before you got

married to him? Yeah we actually met in college I kind of laughed because I was being as rebellious as my

rule following self would be and I was at we were through fraternity sorority things which I really wasn't supposed to be hanging out with the frat

guides according to my parents. I didn't party at all but it was it was the heart of it. I was like, oh, I'm just going to,

I'm going to be there. he that's where we met I think at the time

looking back he was a little immature um which I really didn't think was a big

deal because we were all young I guess looking at it's like

noticed somebody's immature that's probably a bad sign.

At that time he didn't have a great work ethic and he was newly converted according to

his himself that's what he told me. Looking back there were probably more

glaring red flags that I kind of skipped over.

Like, he was kind of pushy a little bit physically,

more than I probably wanted to be or felt like was right.

He was very dramatic, like very over-the-top dramatic. I guess I just

hadn't been around a guy like that so it was kind of intriguing but looking

back I was like that was probably a really a really good red flag.

And I think definitely looking back I thought what he like was what he

presented as private was probably more deceptive about himself.

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