When You Speak Different Love Languages with Dr. Gary Chapman

Laugh Lines with Kim & Penn Holderness

Kim Holderness

Holderness Podcast, Self-improvement, Parenting, 40s, Laugh Line, Gen X, Penn Holderness, Laugh Lines, The Laugh Line, 50s, Kim Holderness, Aging, Getting Older, Humor, The Holderness Family, Marriage, Education

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🗓️ 17 February 2026

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

If you’ve ever thought, “I'm showing love to my partner, so why don’t they feel it?” This episode is for you. This week on Laugh Lines, we’re talking to the actual human who gave us the phrase “love language.” Yes. The one, the only... Dr. Gary Chapman. Dr. Chapman is the man behind the famous book, The Five Love Languages. He joins us to talk about what happens when you and your person are speaking completely different love languages, and why dialect of a love language is also important.

'Acts of Service' might be my personal version of romance, but that's not Penn's. It's important to understand that how you show someone love doesn't mean they feel love. We discuss what to do when your partner’s love language is the one you’re worst at, how love languages shift in different seasons, and the five apology languages (including why “I’m sorry if you felt that way” absolutely does not count!)

If you’ve ever wondered why you feel deeply loved when someone washes the dishes or why you just want someone to sit down and actually talk to you… this conversation might give you the language you’ve been missing. Whether you’re married, dating, parenting, working, or just trying to understand the humans in your life - there's something everyone can take away. Sometimes the problem isn’t love, it's how we show it. (Big thanks to Dr. Chapman for coming on the show, this was one of our favorite podcasts to record!) Learn more about Dr. Gary Chapman.

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Laugh Lines with Kim & Penn Holderness is an evolution of The Holderness Family Podcast, which began in 2018. Kim and Penn Holderness are award-winning online content creators known for their original music, song parodies, comedy sketches, and weekly podcasts. Their videos have resulted in over three billion views and over nine million followers since 2013. Penn and Kim are also authors of the New York Times Bestselling Books, ADHD Is Awesome: A Guide To (Mostly) Thriving With ADHD and All You Can Be With ADHD. They were also winners on The Amazing Race (Season 33) on CBS.

Laugh Lines is hosted and executive produced by Kim Holderness and Penn Holderness, with original music by Penn Holderness. Laugh Lines is also written and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, and edited and produced by Sam Allen. It is hosted by Acast. Thanks for listening!

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0:00.0	The great philosopher Paula Abdul once said opposites attract.
0:03.8	So literally I will reach out at night and go like physical touch.
0:07.0	True love begins not with a feeling, but with an attitude.
0:11.6	And the attitude of love is I want to enrich the life of the other person.
0:15.7	Yeah, we get older every day.
0:18.3	Got more wrinkles, that's okay.
0:20.3	Yeah, we're laughing when we age.
0:22.3	Life is like a comedy stage.
0:26.0	And that's what we got laugh lines.
0:32.2	Hey, everybody.
0:32.8	I'm Kim Holderness.
0:33.6	And I'm Penn Holderness.
0:34.7	Welcome to Laugh Lif Lines.
0:36.0	If you ever stood up, walked over to the pencil
0:39.8	sharpener and just really sharpen that pencil for really long time because you wanted everybody
0:44.7	in class to see a brand new outfit. Your home. Welcome. To be clear, there used to be a pencil
0:49.8	sharpener next to the door and it had a little rotary thing. Do they not have pencil sharpeners in class anymore? Next to the door. They're probably still there. You can't really, you can't really. I'm pretty sure they were bolted into the concrete. Yeah, they were built in. Hard bolted into the concrete. I think, honestly, now them thinking of it, I think they just use their computers for everything. So no one knows how to write
1:10.9	things when they're in school anymore? Our son's handwriting. He looks like he is sending a ransom
1:15.2	note. I would argue that about both of our children. I know, guys. Anyway, it's just not
1:20.6	in a premium anymore. I think obviously. A little housekeeping. We have a wonderful,
1:25.4	wonderful episode for you today, but we have exciting news to share. Very exciting news, guys. We have a wonderful, wonderful episode for you today. But we have exciting news to share.
1:29.4	Very exciting news, guys. We have another book out for pre-order. It is a children's book.
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