These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Just in case you need to hear this, I have to say this. I have to tell somebody out there if you're listening right now and you are in the middle of making a decision

that will affect your future, like, let me just pull one up out of thin air.

Like you're getting a divorce and you feel so bad about getting a divorce that you decide to pay your ex a certain amount of money

for a number of years.

I actually know somebody who did this who felt really bad about getting a divorce.

So she ended up signing an agreement or making a contract up to pay him a certain amount of money

every month for indefinitely until he got married again.

I think that was the stipulation.

That's not very good incentive for him to get married again, that's for sure.

But that's what she did.

She felt bad.

She had compassion, very good qualities.

But after, I don't know, it was like two to four months, I think.

It's like a time range where the fog lifts.

I even use that in emotionally abusive relationships. When somebody gets out of an emotionally abusive relationship where they're really

attached to the person that they are leaving, but they still love them and they love things

when they're great, but they hate them when they're not.

It takes like two to four months to get past that point where you feel so bad about it or you still feel these loving feelings toward them or what have you.

They're just this emotional connection.

Sometimes a trauma bond will be that.

Like where you really, really love somebody who's also hurting you.

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