When You're the One Trying to Get THEM to "Work" on the Relationship: Jocelyn Episode 108
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 19 November 2020
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
There's that feeling of trying to pull or "drag" your partner along when you want to grow and strengthen your own relationship. Here you are with good intentions to make certain areas of your relationship even better... but it's almost like you are doing it on your own or that you are literally forcing your partner to participate.
This can feel so draining and frustrating when your positive intention is met with resistance, push back, or even resentment. Almost like trying to get a child to eat his peas!
But does this mean that you have hit the ceiling of where your relationship growth can go? Or that your partner will never be open to the kind of growth you are? NO.. but you do need to take this different approach that Jocelyn herself covers in this episode.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Well, hello there, everyone. Jocelyn here, the first solo episode that we are going to be doing in addition to our couples episode every week. |
| 0:08.1 | So it's going to be Jocelyn, me, on those moments or seasons when you feel like you are the one trying to get them, being your partner, to work on the relationship. |
| 0:19.9 | And this is a very common experience that I have |
| 0:23.7 | heard both men and women share over the years. And I think that we don't love generalities, |
| 0:30.9 | but what we find is that a lot of times it's the female thinks that he won't work on things. But again, we've heard a lot of men also saying |
| 0:40.0 | she doesn't want to work on things or just your partner, right? So you may feel like you're in this |
| 0:46.2 | boat or perhaps this is a great episode to send to your friend who is trying to have their |
| 0:51.4 | partner get on board with self developmentdevelopment and working on the relationship |
| 0:54.6 | because I want to share something. Before I get into a couple of tangible things that you can do |
| 1:00.7 | differently, some of you don't know a bit more of our story. And I want to share that briefly |
| 1:07.3 | before I give you kind of the juice of the episode today so that you can have a different |
| 1:12.1 | approach to having your partner get on board with working on the relationship. And it really starts |
| 1:17.3 | with when we met, I actually had started self-development about a year and a half before meeting |
| 1:24.2 | Aaron. So I'd gone to this seminar and it was my first introduction to self-development, |
| 1:28.8 | which my dad invited me to. And I thought he was at a work conference and he was actually at a |
| 1:33.6 | personal development seminar. And he introduced it to me and invited me to do it. And it changed my |
| 1:39.0 | life. And it sent me down this trajectory of realizing that I'm not quote unquote stuck who I am. |
| 1:45.6 | There's things I can transform. |
| 1:47.0 | I can grow. |
| 1:48.2 | It just really sent me down this path of wanting to learn more about myself and creating a |
| 1:53.0 | life that I love. |
| 1:54.9 | And that really starts with self-development. |
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