We've all heard that old adage opposites attract. It's pretty common in marriage, but what about when similar personalities attract each other? I'm John Fuller, joined by Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Aaron, who lead our marriage team, and we're going to kick off now with a clip from Focus on the

Family with Jim Daly. Dr. Kevin Lehman spoke with Jim about why birth order can impact your marriage,

and previously they've kind of explored marrying outside of your birth order, if you will.

Today, they're going to talk about what happens when you marry somebody in a similar birth order position, starting with middle kids and then moving to babies of the family.

Kevin, we're going to get to the audience questions here, so get ready, everybody.

But let's hit the two other types, like two middleborns that marry.

Again, we're going to the most conflict in

marriage based on birth order. So what do they look like? Well, middle children avoid conflict

with a passion. They want the oceans alive smooth. Well, I got news for you, if you're married,

you're going to have a few waves come along. So what do they do?

They hide.

They tend to hide their feelings.

And so these are the couples that have to say, you know what, we know each other pretty good.

We know our tendencies.

Let's make sure that we have date night once a week, whatever, where we just sit and talk about what's on our mind.

One of the things I always suggest to couples is pray together audibly.

Gentlemen, if you want to be a leader, in fact, I just wrote a book called Be a Great

Leader by Friday, which ought to be a quick read since you've got to be a great leader by

Friday.

But my experience has been that women, even today,

where our roles have changed so much in our society, women still want that man who's going

to be a general leader. But that man who takes that wife's hand and says, honey, let's pray.

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