I didn't heal until I stopped pretending I wasn't hurt.

My name is Andrea and this is adult child.

Welcome back to adult child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family.

For any new listeners, my name is Andrea, I am a recovering alcoholic, I am a recovering adult child, I am a recovering CPA, I once

peed my pants at a roost chris steakhouse completely sober. I also once went to a concert with my lift driver completely sober.

I realize that I have not shared this story with y'all and it's one of my faves, but you can just pass forward a few minutes if you don't want to listen to it.

So I love Yacht Rock and I have no shame about it. If you're wondering what Yacht Rock is, I just did a little little goog search on what it is and this is how it's described.

Yacht Rock is music primarily created between 1976 to 1984 that can be characterized as smooth and melodic and typically combines elements of jazz, rhythm and blues and rock.

So we're talking like boss gags, we're talking Tom Petty, we're talking the Eagles, we're talking Hall of Notes, Doobie Brothers, all that shit.

So I love Yacht Rock and there is a wonderful Yacht Rock cover band that plays out here in California, they're called Mustache Harbor, I'm like their biggest fucking fan.

So this is obviously pre-pandemic, they typically play in San Francisco every few months, they usually play on a Friday and Saturday night. So I go on a Friday night and I go with one of my friends.

Now he was not into the music as much as I was and so I feel like it didn't get so like fully enjoy myself because I felt like I had to kind of like make sure that he was having a good time.

And so I decided that I was going to go back for the Saturday show, I bought two tickets for the next night and I was like I'm either going to go by myself or I'm going to go with somebody who's going to be into this shit as much as I'm in.

So it's the next night and I am on my way, I'm in a lift on my way to the concert and I am going alone.

Now there was like a series of events that had to occur for me to get in this one particular lift. I thought I lost my wallet at a restaurant, I had another driver that canceled on me and so I get into this car and Holonotes comes on the radio.

And I can see that the driver is kind of like bop in his head a little bit, I can see like a little bit into it and I was like, oh, do you like Holonotes and he goes, yes, I love Holonotes.

And I said, you're taking me to a concert right now where this is all they play is like this kind of music, this genre of music. And he was like, I love this genre of music.

And I said, I have an extra ticket. Do you want to come with me? And he said, yes. And we went to that damn show. And you know, I think I have a pretty good job of like reading people's energy if he was like a total creeper.

I wouldn't have asked him to come. I could tell that he had he had good vibes. So we went to the show and we had a blast. And at the end of the night he offered to drive me home, but I declined.

I just wanted to keep keep myself safe. But then the next day I received probably the best text message from him, the best text I've like ever received in my life. So I'm going to read this to you now.

I am just warning you that it is a little long, but it is worth it. And please note, he was he was foreign. So the grammar is perhaps not the best at times, but here it goes.

Thank you, dear, for one great concert. I really had amazing time and definitely one great friend like you. If you ever need anything, just remember you have a cool friend behind your back and will support you and help you and do not expect to return favor him. And once you get to know me, you will understand why I call myself cool friend.

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