When to Get Engaged: Episode 905
The Boundless Show
Focus on the Family
4.7 • 772 Ratings
🗓️ 5 June 2025
⏱️ 62 minutes
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Summary
Motivation for starting over, plus a marriage expert says when to tie the knot, and balancing Christian community with non-Christian friends.
Featured musical artist: David Dunn
Roundtable: National Start Over Day
A breakup. A job layoff. An unmet goal. When failure, loss and disappointment happen, sometimes the best thing you can do is press reset. Today is National Start Over Day, and if you need a second (or third, fourth or fifth) chance, you’ll be encouraged by our guests’ stories as they share what it’s like to start over when life knocks you down.
Culture: Is It Time to Propose?
Some people date for years, others for only a few months. There’s not a one-size-fits-all approach to moving toward marriage, but there is wisdom in knowing when to get engaged. What should you know about your boyfriend or girlfriend? About yourself? How can you tell the difference between cold feet and red flags? Bob Paul is a marriage therapist with both expertise and cautionary tales aplenty. He’ll help you parse out what you must know before deciding to tie the knot.
Ready to Wed: 12 Ways to Start a Marriage You’ll Love
Empowered to Love: Discovering Your God-Given Power to Create a Marriage You Both Love
Inbox: Balancing Christian vs. Non-Christian Friends
How do you know if you’re spending enough time with your Christian friends? How about your non-Christian friends and neighbors? Lisa Anderson weighs in.
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| 0:00.0 | Boundless Show. |
| 0:12.1 | Well, friends, here we are for this week's episode of The Boundless Show. |
| 0:15.4 | This is Lisa Anderson here with you. |
| 0:17.6 | I'm going to give you a little preview of what is coming up on the show. We are squarely |
| 0:22.9 | into June, which is so exciting. It's the best month of the year. Later on for our inbox, |
| 0:28.4 | how do you balance having a healthy Christian community in your life with also evangelizing to |
| 0:34.8 | non-believers? Where's the balance between how you spend your time in relationships? |
| 0:39.4 | I'm going to weigh in on that. And then for our culture segment, Dr. Bob Paul is the leader of our |
| 0:44.2 | Hope Restored Initiative at Focus on the Family, dealing with crisis marriages and helping a lot of |
| 0:50.0 | folks gain hope for their marriages, even if they have been struggling for quite some time. |
| 0:55.5 | Well, he is going to discuss, from his perspective as a therapist, how to know when you and your |
| 1:01.7 | significant other are ready to get engaged. So, including what is the difference between |
| 1:06.5 | cold feet and what is the Holy Spirit telling you to take pause. So lots of great insight from him. |
| 1:12.9 | All right, here we are for our roundtable. And I don't know if you know, but coming up, actually, |
| 1:18.4 | well, if you're listening to this on the day it releases, it's today. It is called National Start |
| 1:23.2 | Over Day. If you're listening on the weekend, that's okay. It was just a day or two ago, so you can |
| 1:29.1 | still jump in. But I think this is something that's so applicable for so many of us, this idea of |
| 1:34.4 | like, can I just have a, you know, a retake, do, you know, startzies all over again and all that |
| 1:41.1 | kind of stuff. So fortunately, we have people here at the table who are |
| 1:45.5 | totally perfect and have never had to do this, but they're going to give encouragement for the |
| 1:50.1 | rest of us, I guess, to do it. We have got Aria, Bill, and Angel here. Hey, y'all. Hey, |
| 1:55.1 | very good to have you here. So I thought this is funny because in talking with the team about |
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