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When Therapy Isn’t Working (Or So It Seems)

ShrinkChicks

Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT

Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education, Self-improvement, Mental Health, Relationships

4.9755 Ratings

🗓️ 4 August 2025

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

On this week’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen dive into the murky waters of when therapy isn’t working—and how to tell if the problem is the process, the therapist, or your own discomfort with growth. They talk about red flags and realistic timelines, the importance of therapeutic fit, and why sometimes therapy feels worse before it feels better.

They also mythbust common misconceptions (no, your therapist isn’t supposed to give you all the answers), explore what it means when you keep saying the same things in session, and share how to get back into therapy after a not-so-great experience. Plus: how to cope after an emotional session, why your partner doesn’t have to like your therapist, and the difference between rumination and reflection.

Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6:40 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.


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Transcript

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0:00.0

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You know the drill.

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Strap sticking in, bands that never sit quite right,

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underwear that either rolls or rides up.

0:12.4

I'd get so frustrated shopping for bras and underwear that I kind of gave up.

0:17.2

I'd add things to my cart online, stare at them, and then just never check out.

0:21.6

Because in the back of my mind, I figured it'll just be another letdown.

0:25.8

But recently, I finally took the plunge with skims, and I cannot believe I waited this long.

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I started with a fits everybody collection, and let me tell you, it is like, oh, so this is what it's supposed to feel like.

0:37.1

The fabric is unreal. Silky, soft, stretching all the right ways, and it somehow manages to feel light but still supportive.

0:45.1

My absolute favorite piece, the triangle bra.

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I am not exaggerating when I say it is the most comfortable bra I have ever owned.

0:53.3

Usually the second I walk in the door,

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I cannot wait to take my bra off, but with this one, half the time I forget I'm even wearing it.

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It's supportive without squeezing and it just feels good on my body. And now I'm kind of obsessed. I

1:05.8

keep looking at the rest of the skim site, making mental wishless and a set of abandoning my cart

1:10.3

like I used to,

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I'm actually excited to click checkout. It feels like I finally found intemates that actually work

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for me. Pieces I don't have to think about all day because they just feel good. I get it now.

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This is why people rave about skims and why I'm officially hooked. Shop skims fit. Everybody's

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collection at skims.com. After you place your order,

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